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Hi,
I have been friends with this guy for about two years. We met at our old job and hit it off instantly. In the first year of our friendship, we did absolutely everything together and always talked on the phone, went out to eat, hung out at work, and just basically spent as much time with each other as possible. As time went on, we got closer and closer and ended up developing some romantic feelings for each other. He ended up telling me his feelings and I told him how I felt and we both actually thought it was pretty funny and laughed because it wasn't super serious. We almost hooked up anyway but ended up changing our minds and both went back to our significant others shortly after. We stayed friends although it seemed a little strained after we fooled around with each other. We were both a little embarrassed (even though we didn't have sex - we just played around ALOT for awhile) and it slowly took a toll on our friendship. I became distant because he became distant and eventually we started getting into disagreements which then turned into arguments. We started talking less and eventually stopped talking at work and over the phone. This was more so on my part because I noticed that everytime we interacted we would start arguing again, so I wanted to avoid it. This went on for about a year and things slowly but surely got better and we began talking again but not as often. I made a huge effort to fix everything by just trying to forgive and forget and being super nice and always making conversation with him but things weren't the same as they once were. Then a few months ago we both met a girl that became a mutual friend and I noticed that he seemed very drawn to her and wanted to hang out with her much more than me. He started calling her constantly, always wanting her to come over, offering her rides home, and just calling to see how she was doing randomly. I know this because she's always telling me how often he calls her. I feel like our friend (who I think is a great person) has somewhat taken my place and it really bothers me. I feel very jealous of their close friendship because it reminds me of what I once had with him. I want to be the friends we were two years ago and have tried so hard to keep in contact with him but he never calls me back and barely ever returns my text messages. However I have seen him call our friend repeatedly while I've been in her presence, so I know its not that he is busy with work or something. I feel like he has brushed me off for her and it hurts because I really love him as a friend and miss him and want him to be in my life. I don't think that he doesn't want to be my friend anymore because on the rare occasion that I see him he's always friendly but I feel like he is not making the same effort with me as he is with our mutual friend. What should I do? I really want to know why he's doing this but I don't have the courage to ask. Sometimes I think maybe he has just grown apart from me but its a difficult idea to swallow. I don't know what to do in this situation and would appreciate some (friendly - no cynical people, please!) advice. Thanks. (link)
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I recommend starting with the mutual friend. Next time you hear that he's giving her a ride home, tell her to tell him that you say hi or something simple like that. After a few times of that, text him and just ask how he's been. That it's been awhile since you talked and was just wondering how him and his family are. Make it clear that you just want a friendship, without saying "Hey I wanna talk as friends. I don't like you like that anymore" (oh high school days...) and aren't looking for anything more (and if you do want more... don't let him know that until you are close again :) ) Take it baby steps at a time, maybe get a group from the job together to go to a bar or bowling or something low key and personally invite him along. Eventually, he will either see what a great person you are or he will stay how he is and lose a wonderful friend. Good luck!
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Alright well there's this guy i'm not sure if i like him anymore it's not like before where i constantly think about him to be honest but him and i had a thing going on and everything and then he was acting dry towards me so i stopped talking to himf or 3 days and in those 3 days i saw him and he told me he got back with his ex girlfriend because i was sending mixed signals,however i've had dreams about this guy almost 4-5 times in a row and all of them have been him breaking up with his girlfriend or something like that i can't really remember too be honest i'm just wondering what does it mean ? (link)
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Dreams are hard to interpret sometimes. However, it sounds to me like you aren't entirely over him. Part of that could be because there wasn't any closure between you two, or it could be that he's with his ex and that means you can't have him! (I know that keeps a guy on my mind more than it should...) Either way, you should decide whether you do want to be with him or not. If not, let it be. If so, then let him know how you feel. His ex was an ex in the first place for a reason. Its possible he may stay with his ex, but if a guy doesn't want you, then its his loss not yours. Good luck!
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I want to do something new with my hair but I'm not sure what! Should I dye it darker or lighter?
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It depends on which look you want to go for. I've noticed that with strong jawbones, (like I have as well) dark hair tends to make them stand out even more while with lighter hair it makes them softer. Personally, I think it'd be cute blonde. Good luck! :)
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