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Q: hey, i really like this guy and me and him have been going out for a while but my friends think hes no good for me even though i like him. they've all been ditching me too because they dont like me going out with him. hes also so nice to me but they dont see it and wont except it.

i mean you have to think about if you like this boy enough to have your friends ditch you.. i mean if your friends were really friends with you i think they wouldnt mind you going out with him.. maybe just talk to your friends..

Q: hey christian. this is that hoe bag at the party

haha i love you

Q: What would you do if you have tried everything in the entire world to get this one girl back, but she keeps pushing you away. She won't forgive you for simple mistakes and you feel there is nothing else left to do? Would you keep on trying or would you give up? You mean almost nothing to her at this point and just thinking about that hurts more.

What would you do?
Since we all you that you situation is similar.

okay, well since i know who you are, personally i would say give up. but what is it like more than a year now that youve liked her? alright ha you cant just give up on HER she means everything to you so personally keep on trying even though i think you should give her up, you wont be able to.

Q: Hi christian...uhh well i like to eat a lot. and i dont know i guess its just cause i love food. but then my friends all started making fun of me for it. and like i dont know what to do anymore except keep on eating.

haha just kidding. the wyth loves you christian

hahahaha omfg i love you wyth.

Q: Back in February my best friend in the whole world started going out w/ this guy. Everyone knew she could do better but she chose him. Right away he cheated on her but she had no idea and just thought everything was fine. She was in love. Her boyfriend would lie to her about smoking, going out, and who he was with. Even when she found out she would still forgive him an trust him. Then her boyfriend made a really dumb move and stole some stuff. He really betrayed so she broke up with him for a while. But everyone knew they still had feelings for eachother. So some how she regained enough trust in him and they went back out. He would still lie and do all that stuff but my firend just thought everything was fine. He even cheated on her AGAIN with some hoebag at a party and made some of her best friends keep it from her. A few weeks later on the day of the eighth grade dance he broke up with her saying that he had lost feelings. She put on a happy face but everyone knew that deep down she was hurt. Once they were broken up her ex would keep saying he loved her and they would sometimes hook up but he would still go and do stuff with other girls. Why was he leading her on if he really didn't like her? Finally she found out about the cheating and most of the lies and when she confronted him about it he just said bullshit stuff and you knew he really wasn't telling the truth. He didn't want anything to be his fault and he made it seem like he did nothing wrong. I'm pretty sure my friend still likes him. So my question for you is why should she, after all this why does my friend keep going back and still hooking up with him. She deserves so much better.

okay well first of all, the guy admittted to all the shit at the end.. he didnt just say bullshit stuff. oh and me and kelly are working it out by ourselfs, so thanks anyway.

Q: i hate when people ask me "why arent you eating? are you trying to starve yourself?" cuz of a past issue i had. besides telling them to fuck off, what else can i say without being verbal?
thanx a bunch

well i mean one aproach is just say fuck off haha but i mean if there your friends you can just say, you know waht ive been through and you know i hate when people say that. and if its just some random person you can tell them the first time to shutup you do eat.. but after a while you should be verbal

Q: theres a guy that i only get to see in the summer who i really like, and i have liked him for a while. last year we went out but it didnt go so well. i ended up dumping him a couple days later. we've talked online about liking eachother but i dont think what he says is real.i want him to know that i really like him and i want to know how he feels. but i dont want things to be awkward or anything because i see him every day. should i tell him or just stay away from the whole deal?

tell him that you like him and you dont want to be hurt. if he really does like you, even as a friend, he wont lie to you/hurt you. tell him you really like him, dont hold back your feelings

Q: why....

do you have this site?

who do you think you are dr phil?

you dont know anything

yeah i am dr phil

Q: hey boo,
if anyone reads this im sure they know who it is but anyways im just wondering how to get a bunch of girls love and friendship back, i dont want parties to be so awkward and i love them all so yeah, i want to be trusted and respected again..i know that takes time, but im impatient..you know that, :)

hey. yeah. for you, thats hard. but look, everyone knows that you did is fucked up. BUT OMG PEOPLE CHEAT. seriously people need to get over the fact that all you did was something you do in middleschool//highschool yeah yeah she was one of your closest friends and your a horny girl. thats what people do but you need to just pretty much relax because youve already apoligized and he came onto you. so the only thing you really can do is wait for your true friends to come around and start patching up the holes. go to the partys. have fun. dont let the people not forgiving you ruin your summer.

i love you forever and ever

Q: hey, fanwhore.

i love you.

what should i do?

->fuglyfitch.

hmm thats hard..

I LOVE YOUUU IM vvvUNGRY

Q: hey christian...

everyone says im always sad all of the time. and well its kinda true. but i want them to stop bugging me all the time about being unhappy. lately ive been feeling happier, but everyone still asks me whats wrong. how do i get it through to them that i want them to leave me alone?

thanks

well i mean if its your friends that are asking you why you are always sad then you have to make them understand that thats just part of being you and that your not always happy, even though you might now act it, you are happy most of the time. and that they should know by now that thats just you, your not always chipper and happy and just keep doing what your doing:)

btw, i love you, i know who this is:)

- -christian

Q: hey christian i just wanted to ask u a question so you'd feel special.jk i love you!

okay heres my question....

what movie is better?

fantastic 4 or....REBOUND!!!!!!

haha

FANTASTIC FOUR.

duh:)

Q: hey christian i got this friend and she is sooo fucking annoying and i dont wanna be her friend anymore. but if i tell her i dont wanna be her friend she'll prolly tell her mom. but i dont want her mom to know and then her mom cal my mom i mean its uncalled for...

what shold i do

i mean.. knowing me i would just tell the friends straight up.. but if the mom is really protective the only thing to do is be nice to the person and then just start pulling away from them.. and stop hanging out with them. i mean you dont want to tell the person IM NOT HANGING OUT WITH YOU, you just have to stop calling the person and stop spending time with them.. any more questions :)?