Member Since: December 3, 2014
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Please help me. I'm currently engaged to a man I've been with for 2 years but I really feel like I'm settling. I'm 20 and we've been engaged since I was 19, I met him at right after I turned 18 so I barely dated.
I feel like I want so much more out of my life and that if we ever get married I'll be settling for less than I dreamed of. Even our engagement although sweet was just "okay" in a discount hotel I paid for followed by a normal day at the beach. He fell asleep during dinner at a Carrabba's, I didn't even get to eat my food. Nobody acted surprised, it wasn't like I imagined where our parents cried out of happiness or where my friends were excited. I loved my ring at first but now I've found out bill collectors are coming after him for the money on it and it makes me sick now because it wasn't even a grand.
We live in a somewhat nice apartment. We struggle with money though even with a roommate. I want to move for better opportunity and he doesn't. Last time we went out of town he told me he didn't have enough money to pay for our dinner and so I had to make an excuse to cancel the order.
This isn't what I want with my life but we've been through a lot together and I do love him but everything is getting so old and I can predict everything he does before he does it. He's sweet to me and he's a good man but everything just feels "okay" there's no romance or whirlwind of emotion. I never feel wowed or amazed. Just okay.
I met a guy a few months ago just for a business dinner and we got along so well. He didn't know I was engaged because it was just business between companies and he didn't know me before. He told me later on how much he liked me though and that he really wanted to see me again. He's recently messaged me again wanting to see me and hoping to get back in contact with me and I think I want to see him too. I know he makes really good money, has a luxury car and a beautiful home. I feel like it would be stupid of me to say no and pass up the chance to a better life seeing as my current situation isn't the best.
Where do I go from here? Should I just go to dinner with him again and see how we both feel before deciding to really break things off with my current S.O.? What do I do? I don't want to throw everything here away if it was just some kind of wonder of something better. (link)
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Run. You are in for a lifetime of disappointments. You are also way too young to get married. You don't want to settle with someone who can't even figure out finances for engagement ring. Also, not having any aspirations at this age? That's frightening right there. If you stay, you will be full of regrets and resentment.
Why don't you take a 6 months break and see where you guys are at? If it was meant to be, and you truly want to and belong together, it will be like nothing has transpired.
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