Member Since: September 22, 2010
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16/f
My parents will NOT listen to anything I say. They told me my curfew is at 8, right, and I told them that I needed it to be at 9 or 10 because of stuff I want to do and they totally IGNORED me! Then I told them I wanted to go to the beach this summer with my friend and her bf because they're old enough and her parents let her but my parents were like, "No, you'll get into trouble!" and this crap about how a 16 year old girl shouldn't be away from her parents like that. I told them it would make me HAPPY to go to the beach w/them and they were like we'll they would schedule a time to go to the beach as a family and that is NOT what I said! This is stupid because I'm almost grown up and they should let me do what I want to do and be an adult like that. I mean this is just stupid. Everything I tell them I want to do they pull some crap like if there's a party then they want to know the SPECIFIC names of adults that are going to be there and they want to know if drinking is involved and I tell them I can handle myself and that I'm a woman already and they just won't listen. How can I make my parents listen to me and do what I want them to do? (link)
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Parents can be frustrating. When I was your age my Mother was very strict. We fought day in and day out. All I wanted to do was hang out with my friends, have the same rules as their parents gave them. I got so rebellious that at the age of 17 I moved in with my Boyfriend and his parents. I had finally gotten my freedom at last. It was great in the begining. However 4 years of this life style led to really bad life choices. By the time I was 22 I had two children , My once super fun boyfriend turned into a Beating, Cheating drug dealer. And all those people I got to hang out late with were all dead beats. I got out of all of this and tucked my tail between my legs and went back home. 4 of what should have been my best years were over. No college, two jobs and two children. I still fought with my mother and hated the rules but I slowly started to comply for the sake of my children and my father. Now that I have teenagers I try to be careful not to become my mother, however I get where she was coming from on a lot of issues. My methods for raising my children are different yet I want to guide them in the best direction I can. You can not change your parents and I know first hand how much it can feel like a life sentence when they are strict. Just do yourself a favor and try to listen. The less you buck up to them the more respect they will give you. Which comes with more freedom. If you play your cards right you will be in college in a few years and you can cut loose with everyone else. It will be worth the wait and your patients.
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