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I've been pondering the idea of being homosexual for some time now. Last week I fully decided that I am really gay and that it's what I want to be. I've always been attracted to the same gender so it isn't too shocking to realize this about myself. I've dated a lot of people before (nobody of my same gender) but I've never been happy with anyone and I know this must be the real reason why.

My problem is that I want to tell my mom and my dad about me being homosexual before I tell anybody else. My mom probably won't like the fact that I'm gay but it's who I am, right? She'll understand that being a gay teen is hard though so I'm not afraid she's going to anything drastic like kick me out.

How do I tell my mom and my dad about my new-found sexuality without them freaking out? Should I tell them right away or should I hide it from them until I have a partner? Should I use slang terms like queer and fag around them so that they understand that they are terms that relate to me and not to joke about things like that? Just a thought I had...

What are your thoughts?

Tell them. Regardless, if your parents don't fully understand at first, they will in time. They'll love you no matter what, and they'll support you with your decision. Tell them about the slang terms, and that they bother because the terms pertain to you. You should never hide who you really are, the people in your life that truly care about you won't judge you on your sexual orientation.

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