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sorry this is so long and whiney...
I am a 16 year old girl, i'm a 4'11 and i weigh about 125lbs. I feel like my weight rules my life, i think about my weight constantly. I want nothing more than to be thin, i'm so self-concious about my body and i really think that being thin would make me so much happier. Sometimes i feel pretty depressed but i dont take meds or anything like that and i cut myself sometimes. Sometimes after trying so many outfits on i just start to cry because i can't stand to look at myself. When I look at my body naked in the mirror I hate myself. My parents and my two brothers are all great athletes and are very thin and fit. My one brother struggled with his weight when he was younger but is now so fit. I feel embarrassed in front of my own family! I'm not obese or anything but I'm not skinny and I truly hate myself for it. I've been eating healthy and i know if i just ran on the running machine every day i would loose some weight but I just can't motivate myself to do it! I don't know what to do! I feel like ive hated my weight since i was in 5th grade. I'm so worried that if i can never motivate myself and actually loose weight i will end up hating myself for the rest of my life and i dont want that to happen!!! I've already wasted years and i'm scared i'll never loose the weight. I really don't know what to do and i feel completely trapped... (link)
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Do not feel bad about yourself. We as humans are not perfect and all hate something about our self, if you were given the chance to get plastic surgery would you get it? And if so think about all the things that could wrong and think about all those stars that do and how they look....well they look like plastic, i'm sure not alot of guys wouldn't like if you looked like that (I'm not saying you should worry about pleasing a guy all of the time). Also i do not think you should compare your self to your brothers, men metabolism are faster then a womens metabolism. Because of the fact that your 4'11 that's just about the right weight, and your only 16 and im sure your a beautiful girl and i know theirs a lot of guys out their thats crazy for you. DO NOT LET YOU WEIGHT RULE YOUR LIFE! I'm not saying don't care about what you eat because we only get 1 body so we have to be careful about what we eat but take a break eat some mc.donalds every once in a while idk but be 16 have fun, and don't worry about things like that all the time!!!
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ok, if you are reading this you probably have already read the first part and know pretty much the whole story..
so recently my stepmom and dad got into a huge fight. my dad was working that day so i went over to comfort her. she told me she talked to her younger son, 16, (my stepbrother). she told me that he said something about me. She said he said " it hurts him to see me going through all this drama all over again, considering ive seen my mother suffer because of my dad and now to see my stepmom who is also my bestfriend suffering is like the past repeating itself. he also supposably said that he feels that i am part of his family because they suffered all their lives like i have.. also stating that i am brave, kind, pretty and have a big heart and that he feels bad seeing me in situations like this." when i heard this i couldnt help but cry. i burst out crying because no one has ever said anything like that or that nice about me. what blew me away was that he thinks of me as pretty. no one has ever told me i was pretty when i was little or even to this day. its always you LOOK pretty or you LOOK beautiful today. i found out this out about a week ago, and i havent stopped thinking about him and wondering if he actually feels the same way about me. i dont know...im confused... what do you think??? (link)
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It sounds like to me that your in love with him for his kind words. Us as women get very emotional and when that person comes along and says the right thing, it's like we highlight it and ignore the other things and he seems like he's a really, really, really sweet guy.Do not get me wrong who am I to tell you if your in love or not but he may have said those things because their true, he honestly thinks those things about you because your his sister he loves you but he may not be in love with you. The best thing to do is to just ask him and you'll just know. I really hope I was some help to you.
sincerely, Tai
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