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Ok im 14/m and im in grade 9. Theres a girl I like whos in my class i dont know if she likes me or not. She always walks over to me and starts a conversation with me and other people say that shes all over me. I dont think she likes me because she always changes the subject when I ask for her msn or number. If she liked me wouldnt she have given me it? Do you think she likes me?

She probably does like you but doesn't want to seem easy, She wants you to show that you actually like her (don't go straight for the kill) play with her the way she plays with you, get to know her and then give her your msn instead of asking for hers

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I am 21 and a bit of a "nerd." I love to be around girls, but I have always been shy, and I have not had many dates. The dates I've had were just dinner and a movie and then take the girl back to her home, and I'd go back to mine, and maybe we'd talk by phone later, and go out again sometime, but nothing more. All pretty innocent stuff; rarely even a kiss.

But recently I met an attractive girl in one of my glasses and things are different this time. She was hard not to notice because she often wears short skirts or shorts (when the weather permits), and she has really nice long legs and a great body to match. We have gone out several times. After the first three dates where we did nothing but kiss, we began getting a little more intimate. Since our fifth date, she has given me a handjob on every date. Of course I enjoy it and would do practically anything to have her do it to me. But here is my concern: She seems like a nice person, and even has certain Christian values, goes to church regularly, and other stuff. Yet, she tells me that she has given most of her other guy friends handjobs. When she told me that, I felt a whole lot less special, and so I asked her why she did it. She told me simply that she thought "guys like it", and she saw nothing wrong with doing for them what they do for themselves all of the time. She says she's a virgin and will not have intercourse until marriage. Now, everything else about the relationship seems to be going well except for my knowing that she gives guys what they want (within limits). I am not very experienced with dating and with girls. Is this normal behavior in dating? Did I grow up in such a conservative environment that I never learned about these things? Or, is she not the "nice" girl that I thought she is? If this is the case, I want to get out of this relationship as soon as I can find the courage. I just don't know what is "normal" dating behavior, and what to expect. Is this what people do on dates? Do girls and guys our age (were both 21 now, and we were 20 when we met) do these things (i.e., have manual sex) fairly casually? Or, is my "nice" girlfriend really promiscuous?"

There is a difference between being promiscuous as you call it or a whore as I would call it and being easy. This girl is simply easy, the type of person that would have been pressured into sex as a teenager (but like you said, she said she's a virgin) Any way she does things to guys who ask becasue she wants to keep them happy not becasue she gts pleaseure out of it. She is probably not as "nice" as you think butshe is not a whore

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