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Heyy, I'm Melinda... I'm 13 almost 14 growing up in Massachusetts. I have dirty blonde hair and blue eyes. I found this site online, and so I signed up.. because I'm cool like that. I like giving advice, dunno why though! My friends always come to me and seek advice, so yeah... Some of their questions are on here too. Oh, and if your some teenage slut that sleeps with guys and thinks shes pregnant.. then asks for advice... I'm not gonna give you a real answer, only because I'm not even in high school yet! So yeah, thats me..


Please give me feedback so I know how I did with your advice. Thanks!

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ok so me and my boyfriend had been going out for a while but then i found out he kissed some girl at his camp while we were going out, so i dumped him. but now i think im into him again. im scared that if we get back together he well cheat on me again. wat do i do??


Jane (14)

Well tell him you don't like that he cheated, then say you miss him and want to be with him again.. Hope I helped

(please give feedback! thanks!)

Melinda

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well i got in this big fight with my close frinds an ive been in a big fight with them befor but one of them i was really close with an she was like still friends with me an now all 4 of us like prety much hate eachother (two of them are twins) an the other one was like my bff but then i got really close with this girl allie an they all got jealus an no we hate eachother but i always think of her(not the twins) an i have dreams all the time that we became friends. Should i reach out to her an say something or just see if she does fist or just no say anything??

well, if I was you, I'd be the first to try and talk to her. If they were really all that close, why did you even get in a fight? Its too bad though. I hope it all gets worked out. Its not the best advice I've ever given, but its short and simple. Talk about it, and if it doesn't work, maybe the relationship wasn't meant to be.

Melinda

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Theres this girl in my school and she can be a real biattch sometimes. But all of my other friends like her and it's really sad because she's nice to me when my other friends are around...but not when were alone. Shes usually a very nice person, but i dont know why she isn't nice to me. Its not like im weird or anything.

Tell her that it bugs you that she treats you different. She might not even notice that she does... If so, it might be because of an "image" she likes to portray... hope i helped, and tell me how i did w/ feedbacking.. thanks =)

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Ok well i went out with this guy and he cheated on me we broke and i gave him another chance n i cheated on him. Now were friends but i mean MADD good friends like w.benefits and im sooo into him again. I like him soo much and i get soo jealous soo damn easy. And idk i think and worry about him so much i get sick and i just want to give up. Im not sure he still likes me i think hes using me for the stuff we do. What do i do?

-Sick and Confused

well try not to think about him as much. If you feel that way- it might not be over for you. He might feel the same way. Tell him you desire him. But don't sound like a stalker. Tell him you miss what you had. Hope I Helped!!!

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i have a friend jackie and another friend jane i got in a fight with jackie because she lied to me now jane is being mean to me she is say all this shit to me and it is really weird i thought she was kidding at frist but then when i called her cell i found out she was at jackies house, jackie and i always get into fights, and last time she told jane to be mad at me too for no reson. when i talked to jane about it she was like w/e and we made up cuz i hate fighting with people. jackie said that she did not tell jane not to be friends with me but i am not sure if i believe her and i dont know what to say or do about it. help plz

yeah, that sucks.. Maybe jane was just confused about which friend to side with. She shouldnt of sided with either, and just have stayed out of it.. but, with the jackie situation, let it go. If she said she didnt, she probabally didn't. Just let it blow over, and hopefully she will apologize. She wouldn't want to loose a good friend, now would she?



Melinda

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i have two friends and i am in a fight with one, now the other friend is being mean to me and saying mean things to me and wont tell me why she is saying mean things. i asked my other friend if she told her not to be friends with me cuz we were in a fight but she said no and i dont really believe her. what should i do ?

forget the fight.. just talk to her. Tell her your sorry for whatever you did... if it was your fault, appologize majorly. As for the other friend situation - tell her you don't like the bitchy things shes saying. If she doesnt stop.. maybe she isn't worth it... but if you still want the relationship to work,have the other friend talk to her. Also; if your afraid to confront either of them, have another friend talk to them for you.. Tell them some things to say, as in, "tell her shes really sorry and didn't mean it. She just wants to talk to you" that usually works.


its just something that happens
as you grow up; you realize its
less important to have more *`'
friends and its more important
to have real ones.
- Laguna Beach

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well .. i had sex with my boyfriend last night .. and all my friends know i was at his house .. so they asked what went on . i told them we just watched some movies theni left .. but i really spent the night there having sex. we didnt use protection and im scared i may be pregnet .. theres no way i can talk to my parents about this or my friends .. and honeslty i love having sex with my boyfriend so i dont think i can stop. i just wanna tell my friends what really went down .. buht i dont know how they`ll react. please help me. - kris

right-o.. thats cool and all.. but im not the kinda girl to aanswer this one.. go find some other slut to tell you

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My best friend is moving in like a year and she is sooo close to me. i can talk to her about anything and i have already lost 3 friends in the past year. its sucks losing friends and one particular friendship has been really hard on me. what should i do to make this one easier???
signed..
---- I miss them...

Dear i miss them,
well i know what your going through. and honestly, I asked the same question. You and I have to stay strong together with whats going on with Jess. I love ya bebe, and hopefully her mom stays in marshfield.

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Theres this girl at my school I was friends with her @ the begining of 6th grade but now,and i dont mean to be harsh or anything, be she really freaks me out. I dont care what she dresses like or looks like, but its her personality that really accually scares me. I'm really not the person whos gonna tell her to screw off, but i really dont want to be around her shes always near me in a few of my classes. She thinks were best friends, but were so not. I dont no what to do.
Signed,
want to let her down easy.

Dear let down,
okay.. [ hopefully first of all this isn't one of my friends who are talking about me! ] anyways... there is no way to let someone down easy. That's just how life is. I know how that feels, and i Know you must feel bad about it. Give it time and maybe she will get the message that you two are going your separate ways. It might help if I knew how long y`all have been friends for, but that doesn't matter. Do not shrug her off, nobody wants that. If it bugs you that much, when she does something that annoys you, tell her Don't however, say you hate her personality completely, because that isn't true. If you tell her what is bugging you- she might improve that behavior. If her personality isn't getting better, [pushes you even when you say stop, or laugh at you while your trying to be serious] ignore it or her for a while, life does go on. But that doesn't mean you need to give up a friendship! Hope it helped..

Melinda

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Well me nd mii boyfriend have been goin out for a realli long time and we havent been anywhere together in what seems like an even longer time. We're both so buisy. What should we do about it?

plan a night every so often when the two of you go out somewhere. If you never have time, then maybe you two aren't meant for each others schedule. hope it helps!

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I have this cousin and she's in 6th grade and me and her are really good friends even though I'm 2 years older than her. Anyways, A LOT of my friends and older guys (like 14/15 yr old guys) thinks she's really hott and I think it's because she has big boobs for her age and to be honest, her bras are really padded. Well i'm sick of guys comin up to me and being like "god your cousins soo hott..she looks older than you!" and pretty much all my guy friends think she's hott and shes really not like "OMG SO PRETTY"..I just don't know what to tell them or what to tell her because it's so messed up..help please? oh yea, and my cuzin is eleven..

tell them to screw off. That sounds awful but its pretty much the bare truth. If you don't like it tell them!

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i need money because i am a serious shopaholic. My mom is always telling me to save my money but i never do and now i have none left, and my taste is at a marvelous point so i really need some. i want a job i'd like but im only 13 so i dont know who would hire me. i like little kids and animals and cleaning. there are other things. HELP ME PLEASE
- shopaholic or shoparexic?

Dear Shopaholic/rexic.

Jobs are everyywhere. Maybe your mom will give you money to clean the house, or help in the yard! Put up adds in your neighborhood for babysitting. Or have a pet wash! Or even a carwash for your neighborhood. Thats a quick way to earn some serious cash. You don't need a part time job to make a few extra bucks for a new fendi purse! Oh and so the money isn't spent on a new cute skirt, look for sales. That sounds so parent-y but it does help! Percents off of anything makes a big difference at the register. Hope it helps!!

Melinda

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Yes well i like this guy sooooooooooo much Like very much. I have fantasys about him and i think about him all the time. Ive even cut myself thinking about this guy. I know i cannot have him thats why. How can i stop it. I Dont want to tell him and i dont want to hurt myself anymore so what should i do?

-------Signed
Hurt but Loving

Hide the sharp objects!! Get kiddy scissors. Try not to think about him as much. I know your better than that. Not in your league, eh? It doesn't mean you have to give up and hurt yourself. Make your "fantsys" happy things. hope it helps-

Melinda

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there is this girl at my school and all her friends ditched her and now she doesnt have a lot of friends and all her old friends are really mean to her. she used to be popular and she never really talked to me but i still feel bad. i feel like i should talk to her or something but as soon as this fight blows over she'll just dump me so i'm not really sure what to do

seems rough. I think you should be really sweet to her. afraid because she once was popular? think about what will happen in 10 years. Nobody will remember that fight. If you just try and be nice to her, you could build a strong relationship!! Hope it helps!!

Melinda

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What up, well my friend, well i dont want to say her name ill, lets just say her name is danica. Well I have a boyfriend Justin and i want to hang out with him. Well my friend is so upsessive and wont let me go with him without her because she wants to hang with me. I want time with him myself and ive told her that i just want one night with him myself and she said i dont want to be aroudn her and care more about boys then her. I've tried everything even lying and i hate lying and liars. I told her my gramma is in town and i have to go to the dinner with her. She called back later when i said i wasnt going to be home and she asked my mom "Did (my name) go with her gramma to dinner" and my mom said no she didnt. She didnt trust me. What should i do. Im soooo confused.

Now that is trouble. Tell her you need your space and deserve a night out with your boyfriend. If she doesn't take you seriously again, tell her it is getting annoying. Learn from your mistakes; There is no need to lie to a friend! As a wise woman once said, "Chicks before Dicks". Make a girls night with her once or twice a month. Go to the movies and mall then go home and have a sleepover with her- just the two of you! One on one time does wonders in a relationship. Give it time, and she will understand how your feeling. Hope it helps!!

Melinda

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Hey, you answered mine right before about my friend poking me. Its not she thinsk it funny. She just wants me to answer her by getting my attention and if i turn around ill get introuble. She wont even though shes talking. I want to answer her but my teacher is just mean like that. What shall i do. (yes she doesnt do it randomly she gets my attention from it)

ohh.. so I see, well i would keep ignoring her. Before class even, tell her your sick of it. Don't be shy about it either- it might be affecting your grades. If you are going to take my advice about the teacher thing, consult him about it as well. Knowing all teachers he will understand. You don't deserve the trouble, I know. Hope that helps!

Melinda

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I like this boy, and he has a girl friend. I hate her with a passion, mean as that is. I really know we are meant to be!! I just wish I could tell him. I tried telling him once, the night he and his girlfriend started going out. Lately I've been thinking that if I told him I liked him, he would have gone out with me. I'm just so confused. I even cut myself just thinking about him. What should I do?

- Confused Love

Dear Confused Love,

wait for when the time is right. And no, thats not the day they break up. It's when you feel ready. Maybe he has a little crush on you even though they are going out. You never really know with boys. But I hope I gave you good advice that works!! Still need help later? Let me know.

-- Melinda

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Ok, in class my teacher is so strict. If you talk he embaresses you and makes you feel bad and yells at you. Well my friend always talks to me and i dont talk back and then she pokes and annoys me until i answer and i always get introuble and she doesnt. and when i dont aswer she like pokes me soo hard you will yell ow. What should i do so i dont get introuble or dont get mad at by my friend?

Have you talked to her? If you are honest and say you don't like being poked, just tell her the honest truth. If she is a true friend, she will understand. Maybe she thinks its funny and thinks you are laughing as well. As for the teacher situation, if the teacher is that mean, consult someone from the guidance office at your school. No guidance office? Tell the teacher how you are feeling. Yeah, that can become very embarrasing, but you are probablly doing a bunch of kids a favor. If you don't want to do this during school around friends, stay after and talk to him. Still too afraid? Don't worry about it, the year is almost over. Hope I helped!!!

--> Melinda

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My friend is mad at me becuase i didnt invite her to the mall, but i didnt even plan the trip so i dont think i need to appoligize. What do i do then?

okay i think you need to give her some time to chill. You don't deserve the trouble if it wasn't your fault. You don't even need to appoligize. Tell her you didn't mean to make her upset. If that doesn't work, don't let her put you in a bad mood. But on the account of her, she felt left out. Obviously you too are very close, and she must have felt unwanted. So I hope my advice helped!!

-- Melinda

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