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Member Since: November 30, 2008
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Last Update: November 30, 2008
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I am a 17 year old girl who is questioning my past. I have heard about people who were abused and forget the entire thing, and was wondering if this was a possibility for me. I am extremely afraid of sex and have anxiety about men. I hate hearing footsteps behind me because it scares me. I am also afraid at night that there is someone in my room. I sometimes have dreams about groups of men chasing me. I used to self-mutilate a few years ago and I also had an eating disorder.

I am asking this question because I heard that these are things that abused people do, and because people in my support group for eating disorders have asked if I was abused after I talked about some things. Is there any way to find out, or any other clues I can look for? Thanks =] (link)
Something similar happened to me. I have an eating disorder and also depression/anxiety disorders and while I was in the hospital for treatment I started having flashbacks of me being sexually abused. I talked about it in individual therapy and it turns out that my parents knew about it, but figured since I forgot it wasn't important to tell my psychiatrist. After I knew that tons of things made sense to me, especially the way I act around men.

My aunt was also sexually abused and forgot about it, it took her years and years of therapy to sort things out. It may just be in your head, and it might NOT be the cause of your self-harm/eating disorder behaviors, but it could be possible that it is a part of it.

I think you should talk to your individual therapist if you have one. If not talk about it in your support group, and if you have a way to pay for it find a good therapist that specializes in the areas you need help in. Good luck!




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