Member Since: July 12, 2007
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well I was with this guy.. and before we got together he got a girl pregnant.. He told me that he was gonna do everything that he could to be around the baby.. I was absolutely fine with that.. I actually wanted him to be around the baby when she had her..It got serious REAL fast and we started to make plans on what we we're gonna do when i graduated and how we would see the baby.. after we were together for 2 months i started a full time job and we NEVER got to see each other..So we broke up.. he got with this other girl.. we stayed in touch.. cause we told each other before we broke up that NO matter what we'd stay friends... well him and the other girl broke up.. and me and him have been talking ALOT more.. and i'm finding myself wanting to be with him... but none of my friends want me with him.. they say that he broke your heart once he'll do it again! they don't know that i'm still absolutely in love with him! WHAT DO I DO?! (link)
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Well if you guys broke up because you never seen each other, he didnt really break your heart. I say talk to him. See if he still feels the same way. Sometimes you have to forget about what your friends say and trust your HEART!!
Best of Luck,
Jenna
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I will make this as short as possible, because I know I hate rading long winded questions...
I kissed this one guy at a party, I'll call him John, while I was still seeing my boyfriend(of 11 months) whom I'll call Dean.
John and I have tried to be friends before, but it just doesn't work out. We always end up bantering but that always ends in arguements, but he's really smart and sweet at times and he challeges me. The thing is he always hits on me, people say he likes me, I say I'm a conquest.
So anyway... John came to my neighborhood, where my boyfriend and I live to see me after the party where we kissed. He ran into my boyfriend and told him we kissed before I got a chance to and my boyfriend broke up with me. He said he would have been able to forgive me if it was anybody else, but he hates John.
My parents invited John and his family over the next day for dinner, which was a Saturday. I found out and I pretended to be sick to get out of dinner so maybe I wouldn't have to see John, but my mother sent him up to my room with medicine and water. He figured out I wasn't really sick and we got into this fight because he said I was avoiding him and I yelled at him for telling my boyfriend, ex now, about the kiss, even though I practically begged him not to.
Then somehow, don't ask me how, fighting turned into a make-out session and we almost had sex. We probably would have if my mother hadn't sent up my brother to check on us. My brother walked in on us and yelled at John, he went back downstairs and an hour later his family left.
My boyfriend called me that night, said he forgave me, and we got back together. Then the next day at school John said he wanted to talk to me, he told me he loved me and that I was never a conquest to him. He said he wanted to be my boyfriend and that he was sorry for everything he'd ever done to me and said. I told him I got back together with my boyfriend and that I loved Dean. That was a lie, I don't love him. He said some really hurtful things to me. Mostly about me being scared and running away from my feelings and only staying with Dean because he is "safe"...
I am so confused, I should be happy. I'm back together with my boyfriend, but things aren't the same. I can't keep my mind off John, or the things we've done. I haven't slept with my boyfriend yet...but I almost did with John and I'm alright with that. Now my boyfriend is pushing for sex...and I just can't. And even though I didn't sleep with John, what we did it was amazing, and I don't regret it. Even though I know I should. It seems the spark is just gone from our relationship now. (Mine and my boyfriends)
What should I do? Should I just put my feelings aside and try to work out my relationship with Dean, or am I just staying with him because he's "safe" and someone I can trust? Do you think I am honestly just staying with him because If I take a chance with John then there's a chance I'll get hurt?
Wow...that wasn't short at all. Kudos to whoever reads through it and trys to help.
Signed,
Some other devoted columnist on this site
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I think youve already answered those questions. If you dont love your boyfriend you should tell him that. I dont think its really fair for him to be in a relationship if you dont love him. You may get hurt from the other guy. but what would a relationship be if you didnt fight. I hope everything works out.
Best of Luck,
Jenna
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