|
|
|
|
|
Q: So recently I have started to feel rather ungrateful toward my parents and I'm feeling a bit guilty about that.
I really love my parents, I do. They've done a great job raising me and are quite supportive. They want the best for me, and I know they love me a lot.
But recently I keep thinking about things they've done wrong. Rules from my childhood that may have been detrimental to my development. Things they have said and done recently that are harmful to my mental health. I keep thinking that they have hurt me, they have left permanent scars on me.
I don't know why I'm feeling this way, and I don't like it, but I can't get these thoughts out of my head. They are in no way abusive, I have no reason to be feeling resentful or ungrateful. Literally as I am writing this, my mom is texting me to help me destress about this school thing that had me really anxious. She cares, yet I can't stop thinking badly about her and my dad. What's wrong with me?
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I understand you very well. I, too, feel ungratefulness towards my parents at moments.
My brain doesn't think normally like other people, because I'm severely mentally ill. These mental illnesses are highly genetic in my mother's side of the family. So when I am overwhelmed with anxiety and depression, I often blame them, saying they "knew that I would have these issues because it's been clear to them ever since they've known each other that mental illnesses are genetic in that side of the family" so why would they conceive?
Why couldn't they have simply adopted? Often more than not, it horrifically bothers me deep in my skull.
I know it sucks so much to feel ungratefulness, but they love you. I know my parents love me with all their heart, and it's so very clear that your parents love you unconditionally.
There is NOTHING wrong with you. It's just a feeling. Please do NOT think you are a bad person because you're experiencing a negative feeling or emotion. It is normal to feel negativity sometimes. There's nothing abnormal about it.
Just continue to remind yourself of all the positivity of theirs that impacts your life. Every single person has made mistakes; they're not the only ones. Accept that they'll make mistakes. Remind yourself everyday of all they do. Therapy might be helpful if you find yourself suffering from this feeling.
Just remember that nothing's wrong with you. :)
With love,
Eunoia
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Q: 17/female/south africa
I'm not sure how to ask this question because I'm not sure exactly what I'm asking. How do you know if you have body dysmorphic? I've always had very bad body image problems even when I was underweight many years ago. And it leads to me wanting to become bulimic and I haven't yet but it's on my mind constantly and everytime I see food. And I've also been thinking I may be depressed. 5 years ago when I was 13 I self harmed and was depressed. I had gone through sexual abuse as a child until I was 13 and I did modeling from age 2 until 14. I just feel like there is something off with me or that I have some disorder such as bipolar, depression something. I can never fall asleep - currently it's 3:15am and everyone's sleeping and I'm listening to demi lovato dancing. I get irritable easily lately and I feel withdrawn from family. I'm always tired in the day with headaches. I have really bad anxiety but I always have stress and anxiety. I have really bad paranoia lately like I get so stressed out getting in a car or going into a shop because I can feel that I'm gonna get in a accident or something bad will happen. I don't know what it is or what I have but I really feel I have something. I don't wanna say anything to my parents and I can't go see a counselor because they are expensive, I can't get to one on my own, and I can't go to my school counselor because I'm running for prefect and can't be seen as unstable. If anyone can just help give me some idea of whats happening to me.
The only grown up I feel like I can talk to is my teacher but she left my school to Europe a year ago and we do still keep in contact and she has helped me through a lot and I trust her but I don't want to annoy her with my problems and Im not sure if I should message her?
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Hi there! :)
I'm immensely apologetic that you are going through some a rough time in your life at the moment. I don't think anyone on this website is a professional of any sort. I definitely am not, but I do struggle with all three of bipolar, depression and body dysmorphia.
You need to see a professional for what you are going through as you need a REAL diagnosis. Not by some random strangers over Advicenators, haha!
I know a lot of counselors are expensive, but there are ones you can find that aren't so. You can even do therapy over Skype, which is very beneficial if you don't like to waste gas! ^.^
You should seriously let your parents know how you're feeling so they can help you get some therapy. :) I know it seems hard, or they might not understand, but ultimately it'll be the right thing to do so they can get you someone reliable and comfortable to talk to and help you through your issues! :D
With love,
Eunoia
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
bio
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Hi there! :) I hope you're feeling wonderful today!! Call me Eunoia! ^.^ I'm simply a friendly and super sweet individual. I struggle with issues of my own. I'm severely disabled, so I wanted to dedicate my life to making people happy/helping them!! :'D
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Info
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Gender: Female Age: 20 Member Since: October 10, 2017 Answers: 2 Last Update: October 10, 2017 Visitors: 349
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|