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Usually I'm the one advising in situations like this, but I'm too close to the person to have an objective viewpoint for this...so I need your help. He's 22. I'm 21.
As concise as I can make it, when he was younger, he had major depression problems, where he considered ending his life, until he wound up on antidepressants for four years. I met him in the last year of his medication stint. We dated while he came off of his pills, "broke up" when he wound up depressed again and went back on pills, and have had a very complicated relationship/friendship for three years.
Now, he has a couple of problems: a seriously injured ankle when he's a very active person, which forces him to basically sit around and do nothing (for the past almost three months) and...well, put simply, he has some major soreness problems every time we mess around, to the point that we have to stop. I'm trying to convince him to go to some doctor and ask questions, but he's too embarrassed. I don't know how to get him to do anything short of making an appointment for him myself.
I see him slipping back into depression, and I'm scared. I don't want him to go back on pills, and he doesn't want to either. He was a different person, and not in a good way. I'm afraid he's going to do something stupid. This man is the love of my life and my best friend - I'm in way over my head. I don't know how to help him except to be there for him and remind him things will get better, but he's not so easily convinced. He's very intelligent and stubborn.
What do I do? =( (link)
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Hi:
I am going to speak from experience. After many years of being diagnosed with clinical depression (by my primary care physician), I was finally (and correctly) diagnosed with bipolar disorder after getting help from a mental health provider.
For over 10 years, I was on medication for depression. This medication was the root cause of my desire (and attempt) at suicide. It was not until I saw the right medical provider that I was properly diagnosed.
Your friend needs you to help him see that he needs to get the help he needs. Do you know his parents? If so, let them know what is going on. If not, get their number and make contact. Regardless, if this young man is your friend, DO NOT disregard what he is telling you. It is a cry for help.
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