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Class of 06! 20 years young, enjoying myself, debating on my next move in life...decisions, decisions. Been with my boyfriend for (almost) four years...i don't mess with b1tch3z...in the end they all have they own agenda, & I have no time for fakeness. If i'm not shopping, I'm reading... Avid reader of Urban fiction, street fiction and african american erotica. Other than that i'm kickin back, bottle in one hand, dutchie in the other. Music choice: I am ... Mrz. Carter. Not really much to tell. Need to know somethin...get @ me

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why do people try and break you and your man up when they know yall are happy?

Jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire.
--Song of Solomon 8:6

Envious people do hateful things, and that's usually what it is. Don't worry about the haters, just keep doin you.

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14/f

Okay, so last year in 8th grade I had a group of 5 of my best friends. We always hung out and told each other everything. Now I'm in high school and the 2 middle schools combined. I have a lot of friends, I'm cool with almost everyone in the grade. I have really good friends in scattered groups. But I have one problem. I've really been excluded from my circle of best friends. We'll talk in school and hug sometimes, but nothing else. They don't tell me anything anymore, they don't call me or text unless it's for homework help. They don't invite me to hang out. One of them had 3 parties this school year and didn't tell me about any of them. I know I didn't do anything wrong... it's like they don't even realize it. I'm sick of having best friends in scattered groups because I just want to hangout with my own group sometimes! I haven't hung out with anyone this whole school year... literally at all. Besides going to the gym with one of those scattered group friends. I don't know what to do. Everyone in my old group wears such cool clothes and they have sleepovers and trade clothes and I have no sense of fashion. I always wear jeans, sweatshirt, and sneakers. They always compliment each other on what they're wearing but never me. They'll ditch me in the middle of the cafeteria and it's nearly impossible to find a new seat somewhere else. They all have had/have boyfriends and have hooked up plenty of times. I've done neither. I'm not as pretty as all of them, not nearly. They included more girls into the group that they met just this year and now they always invite those girls to hang out and trade clothes. I lost my best friends and now it's like they are just friends to me. They all have a video-making thing on Facebook but none of them have ever made a video on my wall. I feel like my life is in turmoil. I can't stand it. I get sick thinking about how I have no group of friends to hang out with on the weekends. My clothes aren't cool enough for them to care about. I don't know as much amazing music as them so they never ask for cds and never make me any. I tried telling one of them how I feel online but she just stopped answering me and entered a video chat with someone. I'm desperate. I don't know how to get these old friends back. I've tried to think of cool outfits but I can't pull it off and I don't have a great body like they all do. I'm hanging on a thread here trying to fit in. They're all friends with sophomores and juniors and they go to a lot of their parties that I've never been invited to. I just don't fit in and I don't want to try "finding new friends". I wake up everyday and I honestly just wish I was someone else, someone they wanted to be around all the time. I don't know what to do. I'm not going through my highschool years friendless and not having any fun or hanging out at all. Help.







Baby girl first of all let me tell you this...and I want you to read this next line over and over again.

Do not change who you are for ANYONE.

Be yourself, thats all you can be. Because no one likes a fake person; you have to be true to yourself.

If I knew a long time ago what I know I would be a lot better off. People change, maybe they've just developed different interests now...but instead of being decent about it they're being little you know whats. And maybe it's just because girls ARE you know whats. It seems like you're just going to have to find new friends, but that's not so bad. Alienating yourself won't do anything but make you unhappier so just don't worry about them...it's their loss. They may even realize that lost a good friend somewhere down the road. Find new friends and try to have fun. Keep your head up.

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