Iv been with my common law wife for 6 years and sex life was good untill she turned 34 and now I don't have any sex with her I'm 39 and we should be in our prime still her sex drive is none mine on the other hand is very. High when I ask her what's. Our problem she explains it hurts when we have sex .I'm not no huge man down there I would say average 7 and a half or so but I remember when we did have sex she would bleed sometimes its been way over a year now and lotion and my hand gets boring what am I to do
She should probably see a gynocologist. If this hasn't been an issue for the last 6 years, but it's now causing her pain, something's not right. She should get checked out to make sure everything is ok. If she's still hesitant after seeing a doctor, maybe you can do other things together. If intercourse is what's causing her pain, there a lot of other fun things that can get you there together without sex.
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Okay, I weigh approx 280 lbs. and I am 5'7 so my BMI is high or whatever. I do have a genetic predisposition to diabetes because it runs greatly in my family. Yes, I am obese. (But I don't in my eyes appear to be obese, I have very large muscular thighs, and they have very little cellulite. But I do have a large stomach and chest, 44 ddd.)
I am currently taking Metformin 500mg 2 tablets everyday... (but I do forget often). My periods have been abnormal for the past 4 years. Like I get only 3 periods a year. I have had ovarian cysts but have not been diagnosed with PCOS.
Yes, I have been to the doctor and she's told me all the stuff about how I need to loose weight, YEAH I KNOW. Plus I just got done taking both a nutrition and health class and has been ridiculed a great deal in both classes about being obese.
But has this changed my mind? No. I know that I am already pre-diabetic... especially for type 2 diabetes. I know what diabetes is and I know that it can kill me if I don't loose the weight.
My question is why with all this information and knowledge I have, I CONTINUE TO EAT.
I can honestly say that life happened to me in the past 3 years, I had a really bad break up, suffered the death of a best friend, lost my apartment because of people who used me, lost a lot of friends, and was used for sex which was a major blow to my self-esteem. I mean it was a lot... so my comfort was and still is food.
Why is it that I won't give it up? What can I do...
My ultimate fear is that if I loose weight, that I will put it back on... and weigh more than I am now...
I really want lap band surgery to ensure the weight will stay off but its costly and my insurance won't cover it.... I don't know what to do, but something needs to be done. Lap band surgery however is still an option for me.
Ok...so you and I are actually in the same boat here. I'm 29 and weight right at 280 myself. I'm actually shorter than you too. I've always been overweight, but was never really unhappy with who I am until I realized that the weight was keeping me from living the life I want to live.
So here's what I'm doing. I joined a local gym for women. It's REALLY GREAT!! I was worried at first about being intimidated, but you get over that really fast when you realize that there are alot of other women there just like you and no one is judging you. My gym also offers a weight loss program that is designed around me. They take the things that I like to eat and then give me menus that paint it out for me. What I should eat, when, etc. Like someone previously said, eating frequent small portions is GREAT! I eat breakfast, then an AM snack, lunch, then a PM snack, and then dinner. The menus are very specific, but the more comfortable you get with them the easier it is to mix and match and make it your own. I've been doing this for a little over a month and so far I've lost 22 pounds. The best part is that I'm not hungry and I'm not changing everything about myself. I still get to eat the things I like, just a modified version of them. And when I get a hankering for that cheeseburger from that local fast food place I love, I have one. I don't have them everyday, but I do occasionally. It's all about balance and moderation. I've learned alot about myself, my body, and what I like. I don't feel at all deprived.
The thing is this, you've got to decide that you want your life to be different. I started thinking about the things I want in my life. And when I started this program, one of the things that they told me to think about is how my life will be different/better when I reach my goals. I've got the momentum on my side and alot of really supportive people pushing me along. If you'd like, I'd be more than glad to send you the menus that I've been working from. It's a place to start. If you ever need a friend or someone to be your cheerleader, just let me know! :-)
Good Luck!!
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