Member Since: September 13, 2012
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Im having a mental break down! I've been going through a lot of stuff in my life, but this is the worst. I'm a 19teen year old and i had a manufacturing job, but i lost it due to transportation issues. i used to have a car but i recently got into a car accident and totaled it by falling asleep on the wheel, working my first third shift job.
My older brother took me in when i had no car, but i still had the job. He took me in after my mom flew out of the state chasing after her husband, and my sister kicked me out of her house for not buying her cigarettes, not paying for her side of the bills for the house, etc. As you can probably tell most of my problems in my life derive from my family.
Going back on topic, my brother took me in even though he had his own problems which was nice of him. His girlfriend took me to work since our work hours where close and my job was near her job. They were both trying to help me get back on my feet. But i was fired from my job because my job changed the shift hours. So, my hours were no longer close to my brothers girlfriend work hours. Which led my brother to pick me up twice, and caused him not to get enough sleep for his job because he works first shift and doesn't go to bed early because he has irresponsible traits. Such as staying up late playing video games.
Well because he was not getting enough sleep he got fired from his job and blamed it on me, and i got fired from my job due to my brother and his girlfriend saying they wont take me back and forth to work anymore. Now i'm looking for another job, while i have no car, and the best transportation i can get is on foot. And what makes things worse is that my brother is losing his house in two weeks due to financial issues. So, him and his girlfriend are gonna move into an apartment, and i have to find a place to go. So, now i have no place to go, no job, and no car. what should i do? Please give me advice :/ (link)
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Job corps, go get a trade and live there for 3 years. Join rOTC and go camping, rippling, and canoeing. Go to college and leave the girls alone. Have fun and enjoy no responsibility but getting a career and college.
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Today my mom came home at lunch angrier than a bull. That isn't really abnormal she usually has crazy mood swings about once a week and everybody who knows her thinks she has some sort of bipolar disorder. Today though she was just completely ridiculous and said some things I don't think I'll ever forget.
The first thing that really bothered me was that she brought up something I posted on facebook FOUR years ago. I posted a status about her driving her me crazy (which I think is normal for a very stressed honors student (freshman at the time) after a fight with their mom. He called her and told her that "I was saying very bad things about her on facebook" (he was 28 at the time). Of course she was very angry at the time she found out (which she had a right too) but come on it's 4 years later now...
Today she brought it up again and said "I'll never in my life forgive you for doing that! No normal child would ever do such a thing and I'm going to hate you for that forever!" I understand if she was talking about something I did today but like I said FOUR years ago a stupid facebook comment and she's never going to forgive me for it?! Isn't that a little out of line?
The second thing was when she said "The only reason I've kept you underneath my roof all of these years was because I knew if I didn't your father would take me back to court and try to take away my child support money!" That just hurt. She pretty much said she doesn't love me at all and that she's just using me for money.
The third thing she said was "I didn't sign up to take care of you for your entire life! I shouldn't have to do a damn thing for you ever again! You're 18 now and you've been out of school since June! You should have a job and be out of my house and you should have repaid me for everything I ever bought you for gifts by now! I want all of that money back. You owe me for every cent I've ever spent on you! I've had close to enough of this and I will throw you out on the street! You think I give a damn? You and your stupid f*cking friends that you text will all become homeless and I'll laugh at all of you! Every adult in the world hates all of you teenagers! That's why we're not giving you jobs! WE HATE YOU AND WE'RE LAUGHING AT YOU! YOU'RE ALL GOING TO BE HOMELESS HAHAHAHA!"
Again I think that was totally out of line. It's not like I'm not looking for a job. I've filled out 300+ applications and walked door to door in plazas in my best formal attire in 100 degree heat looking for a job in the past month since I turned 18 (August 14th) and really? ALL of the adults in the world hate every single teenager? You're all just around to turn us away and laugh at us? I'm sure that's totally what you're all doing. (Sarcasm)
Later that day I went out on the porch to have silent time alone to just cry it out but she must have heard me because not 15 minutes later she walked out and I had my cellphone in my hand in the middle of sending a text to a friend who was making me laugh and she pointed at it and said "Because of that stupid thing we will never have a real mother daughter relationship!"
Idk why but those couple things really cut me more than anything she's ever said to me before.
I don't want to forgive her again and I don't think I can. I can never do anything right in her eyes. She hates everything I do and always tells me how much she hates me and how worthless she thinks I am. I don't get it because I have friends that all tell me how amazingly nice and funny they think I am and all of my teachers have always liked me and called me a sweetheart. I've volunteered with children and I'm a good kid. I'm still a virgin, I only dated once. I never did drugs or drank or partied. I've stayed in my entire life and tried to be good. I just don't think I can make myself like her again. I couldn't even make myself say I love you which I usually do every night before she goes to bed. I just feel so sick about her now. I want to just cry. She's the only person who's ever made me want to kill myself repeated times (though I've never self harmed and I would never actually do it I love life too much). (link)
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Sounds like your mom is going through a very stressful time. I think she may feel like she is separated from you and this is really a tantrum she is going through to get your attention. Since your having a hard time finding a job have you thought about Job Corps? You can live there for 3 years, get a vocation, job training, and go to college. It's free, you might want to look into that. Now, look into personality disorder for your mom.
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