I have dealt with many emotional and psychological issues both personally and in my career. I've gone thru emotional, verbal and sexual abuse, severe depression, therapy, emotional hospitalization, sexual addiction diagnosis, divorce and suicidal ideations. So I've been there, I'm a healthy person now and in a healthy relationship. But I've definately learned from the School of Experience and I'd love to be able to help others with the knowledge that all that has brought me. I'm not judgemental but I will be very frank if with my OPINIONS.
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Well I'm 12 ok and my older friend(17)once talked to this girl I sed to be friends with(16)and at that time that girl was 14 and they were talking about modeling and stuff and my friend said that her boyfriend was taking pictures of her in langeray and then he got all touchy touchy and he forced himself on her and stuff and then she changed the subject when she asked if she's ok. And the same guy told her he's gonna give her a hell of a smack. And I was just wondering do you think he raped her? I don't know why I'm worried though but I was just wondering.
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Anytime a person FORCES themself on another for sexual gratification it is a violation, whether it is classified as molestation, rape, etc. The problem is, the victims usually harbor a large amount of guilt for what happened thinking they done something to cause it or could've prevented it if they'd just done something different. The fact that she was showing him pix of herself in lingerie for instance, she may feel that she caused him to get so turned on that he couldn't control himself. He may have even told her that it was her fault or called her some derogatory name making her carry the shame for the abuse. Your friend needs help from a trained professional. If you can get her to speak to an adult that she trusts. She will probably need counseling because any form of sexual abuse is very very very difficult to overcome and it leaves a psychological scar for life. Trust me, I was the victim of sexual abuse from a cousin who was 4 years older than me from the time I was in second grade until I was 13 years old. The cousin was being abused at the same time by their father. I never told anyone until I was 30 years old and it had already caused major problems in my own mind and life. The earlier we deal with this sort of issue the more control we can get over it. So please encourage her to talk to someone that she trusts.
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