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21 Female. Boyfriend is 19

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months now. We are so comfortable with each other when it comes to being sexual. He loves everything about me and I love everything about him. We've done just about everything, the only thing we haven't done is him eating me out because I'm not comfortable with that yet.

Anyways, I occasionally will give him a HJ. Some times it takes longer than other times for him to finish. Sometimes I'm thinking 'OMG will you finish already my hand is hurting!' And I know he is enjoying it by how he acts and what he says. I've only given him a BJ twice. The first time he finished and it wasn't that bad. The last time, which was last weekend, I had to stop because my neck was in so much pain & I was getting tired. I have bad neck problems (I go to the chiropractor twice a week) and I was doing it for about 20 min and I said sorry babe I have to be done I'm in pain. He didn't finish that time. I felt SO bad that I didn't make him finish. I offered to try and finish him with a HJ but he said no that was fine. Well that night when I went home I felt really guilty and so I texted him and said 'I feel like such a bad girlfriend for not letting you finish, but I got so tired and my neck was killing me' and he said baby don't worry about it, you're not a bad girlfriend at all I love you and it was still amazing.

I still feel really bad, what if my neck starts hurting the next time I do it and he doesn't finish again? I don't know if I'm doing it wrong or what. He just seems like he takes forever. Is there anything else I can do? I know he is enjoying it and I know what he likes but I don't know what else to do. I'm a little worried now.

Do it the other way around. Start out with an HJ, and then finish him with a BJ. Your neck will tire out a lot quicker than your hand will, and then you're splitting the workload.

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