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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a week now we are both 17. Our first date is on Saturday. We were talking about sex. And on the 5th or 6th date he would like to have sex with me. I really like him and ik he really likes me. He is not a virgin but I am... And he doesn't want to hurt me so he wants be to be on top.... But I'm heavier than he is . He is skinny an I have a muffin top and stretch marks. What should I do!?!?
Well first off, you need to ponder on whether you're ready for sex or not. Besides being protected and careful, you need to evaluate yourself emotionally. You NEVER forget your first. I lost my virginity to a guy that was my first everything, and I was his too. If you decide that this guy is really worth it and you feel confident about your decision, go for it. I mean, I know some people may discourage having sex so early in the potential relationship, and sometimes it doesn't turn out well. I don't think losing your virginity to a guy who actually has asked you for it so soon is such a good idea, mostly because it seems like that's all he's looking for. It's like getting a chocolate bar without paying for it: it has no value to you. He hasn't necessarily worked at it yet.
But then again, I met this guy by chance through some mutual friends I had never met before, but had known for years. They lived about 2 hours away, and so did the guy. After constant conversing for about a month, I decided to take a random trip to see him, and within hours of first physically meeting each other, we had sex and now he's my boyfriend and I really haven't ever been happier, and we see each other every weekend.
As for the self-image issue, I have the same problem.
The EXACT same one. But my boyfriend made me feel comfortable in my own skin, so until the person you decide to have sex with makes you feel that way, just don't have sex with him, or refuse to do it in anything more than pitch darkness. Haha, that's what I did!
But really, you can become emotionally attached to this guy if you so choose to lose your virginity to him, and in reality, a lot of guys are players and most of them only want some ass. But if you don't really care who you lose it to and you're like me and have a lack of emotion, then I say go for it and just be confident about it. In the darkness. Darkness is like a security blanket for us girls! At least until we feel comfortable with our man. Don't worry about it, just focus on performance and forget your insecurities and be that experience he'll NEVER forget. :)
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