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Q: what can i do while grinding with a guy to turn him on and give him a boner? like is there a certain way to move my ass, like slow or some shit like that

While grinding on a guy when you go right on his crotch slow down a little bit and put a little more pressure on him.

Q: What exactly is considered oral sex? Blow jobs, and eating out? Is titty sucking considered oral sex?

I dont beleive so because i have never heard it mentioned as oral sex..

Q: Where were you when you had your first time. My boyfriend of almost a year and I are thinking about doing it for the first time, but we aren't sure where the best places would be, or places that would be fun. and we don't want to be uncomfortable. So if you could list a couple it'd be apriciated. Thanks!

My first time was on my boyfriends bed with his mom on the other side of the house and we didnt even do it for more than 3 minutes because she was comming. i recomend being comepletly alone and on a bed especially for your first time. it would be kind of weird somewhere else and not being experienced on what to do. hope i helped.

Q: I heard sex makes your breasts grow if you do it enough (not by getting pregnant). Is this true?

I'm not sure its true and i dont think it is. I have been having sex for over a year now and i havnt seen any abnormaly fast growth in my breasts. I dont think its true unless you were pregnant.

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ok im 17 and i dont rally know what to do when my boyfriend fingers me..he did it once before and we just kissed and it was fine but am i ment to do something else?
And also how do you go around giving a handjob?lke how do you start it off?do you sit next to them or lye next to them and what do you do next?do you kiss them when youre doing it?
Please help!I just dont know how to start it off!

Well i need to ask if he is more experienced than you because the first time i was fingered and gave a hand job i just plainly told my boy friend that i was really shy and didnt know what to do and he found it cute and just helped me out and showed me what to do. if not its still confusing to me sometimes and i have been dating my boyfriend for over a year.

Q: This is a weird one... I'm 22 and I've had sex with three guys. Through random luck, all three had larger than average-sized penises. (Going by the average size reported by studies.) The last guy I dated was ridiculous; despite being short and thin in stature, his penis was 7.5 inches long, 6.5 inches in *circumference* - I'm not kidding. Sex was actually a bit painful sometimes!

Anyway, I'm seeing someone at the moment and I have realised I have this really stupid fear - that he's going to be small. It's not that I care in terms of my pleasure (so far he's been pretty good with his hands, if you know what I mean, and I think he'll be good in bed too). But I have no idea what to say if he's small! When I found out how big my exboyfriend was, I gasped and said, "Jesus Christ!"... Is it ok to say nothing if a guy is average or small, or do guys appreciate it if you pretend to be impressed even if you aren't?

Sorry this question is so bizarre, but I'd really appreciate some advice on this topic!

I have kind of been in the same situation. My boyfriend is big and while we were not dating i had sex with another guy. (we have broken up like 3 times) The guy i had sex with was not as wide as my boyfriend and it didnt feel as good. I was honest with him and it did feel good just not the same because i wasnt used to it. I didnt hurt his feeling and he appriciated the honesty. Dont pretend to be impressed because thats the way i was at first part of the sex but then when i knew it was wrong to do that to him i just told him. And you'll regret faking it because then you'll be lying to him and the next time if you do have sex again you wont enjoy it like he will. hope i helped.

Q: 15/female. My life is great. I have everything I could ever need, and a small group of friends that I could tell ANYTHING to. My parents love me, and 99% of my family is beyond incredible, but sometimes I get too overwhelmed. I'm an only child, and my parents expect a LOT out of me. If I don't have straight high-A averages, I get privleges taken away because "I can do better" and I KNOW that they're right. I always LOVED school, and don't get me wrong, I still do, usually. But now that I'm in highschool there's more drama to deal with, and teachers are more eccentric, for lack of a better word. Sometimes it's too much to deal with. My mother attempting suicide last year was essentially my breaking point. She's got that worked out (nasty hospital screw-up and severe allergic reaction led to a decrease in serotonin; she's fine now) but nowadays I think constantly that something even worse will happen not just to her, but to many people I care about.

Sorry that was so long, but as you can see I really need to work some things out. Would it be weird to go to a therapist just ONCE, to have someone else to talk to, or would I be forced to go nine thousand times?

I have almost been in your shoes before. I am also a only child and am expected to make good grades and over all be a good child. My dad commited suicide when i was 13, I am now 16 and my mom is getting remarried. But I didnt think i needed therapy. When infact i did. Not all of the time just some of the time. Most of the time it was the normal run of the mill nodding and "understanding" that therapist do. But afew times i really let loose and it helped alot. therapist really try to connect with you usually without "trying to be your friend" thats usually what school counclers try to do. You will not be forced to sign for a year of therapy or anything i like that. You just pay for the time you are there and if you think you would like to come back again then go. Dont be afraid of it. Its truly nothing to be ashamed of. Especially if you think it will help.

Sorry its long.

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Hi I'm Courtney. I Love awnsering people questions and alot of my friends call me the therapist. But besides that my life practically evolves around photography and kayaking. I'm 16 years old and bound ready for life. I have had my share of heart ache and my share of drama. But i am more forgiving than most hard core christians. My family is difficult and when i say i know what you mean i truthfully do. I have been in a lot of hard places and have thought i was never going to get out and sometimes i think again i never will. I am open to everyone and will not push you away. I am not judgemental just because everyone judges me on the fact that my hair is about a inch long. I live in a very small town whith very ignorant people so i guess thats why i am the way i am. If you would like to talk i am always on myspace. www.myspace.com/c419420

thanks Courtney