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Ok firsst of all im really embarred to be asking this.

I know that fingering is not callsed untill its inside...
buh where does it like.. go in...
gosh im so embaressd to be asking this....

jus to clear up any confusion ive gots right now


thanks
xXx

same place that you put your tampon

-Calamity Sami

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ok well i relle want to get a toungue ring...
andd i dotn know iff yuu guys would thing it was sexyy


do u think it would be attractivee if a girl gott a toungue ringg..

im 5'3 italian nd brazilian
in shape
cutee lol

^^ would it look goood?

There are pretty much two opinions on this: either guys really like it, or they really think its disgusting and you are cheap... I would suggest getting a belly ring if you don't have one, Guys find belly rings much more attractive than they do tongue piercings. and also remember that there is a lot that can go wrong with getting your tongue pierced. You talk funny for a while, and can't eat certain foods for a period of time, and it is the most dangerous to get pierced because you have a main artery in your tongue. A belly ring has less chance of getting infected, you can take it out, you can change the belly ring, and you just have to clean it for a while...

-CalamitySami

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I'm going on birth control very soon. I have made an appointement with the doctor and I have to speak to her for a half hour. witch questions will he ask me? and also, whats the best kind of birth control out there?
thanks

Well, there isn't a set 'Best' BC. it varies for each person. Your doctor will probably ask you a few questions about your period, such as do you have cramps, and do you get a heavy flow... ect. The BC will help reduce all the normal icky-ness of your period, reducing: flow, cramps, days it lasts, fatigue and bloating
(for most people that is. Before i was on BC, i had a really light period that lasted two days, never got cramps and/or bloated. But after having taken it it really messed me up, and now i have horrible cramps, my lower back hurts while i'm having my period. it lasts for what feels like forever and i get really fatigued. and this is all even after i've stopped taking the BC, so just beware)
If you tend to be an already emotional person, i'd suggest asking for something with a lower dosage, because yours moods will be really crazy for a while, it takes up to 6 months for your body to get use to BC.
Talk to your doctor about the different kinds, and make sure to ask questions, some BC's may not be right for you.

Hope that helped some

-CalamitySami

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my question is my period started on feb. 12th...it was over by the 18th. I had unprotected sex with my husband on the 20th and he cummed in me ...what are the chances of me becoming pregnant and when can I take the test, on what date. We did this once before had sex right after my period and he cummed in me.....and I didn't become pregnant. So please and advice would be greatly appreciated.

Well, the riskiest time to get pregnant is when you are ovulating. so for you, the riskiest time would be still in a few days/ a weeks time, you most likely aren't going to get pregnant if you have sex right after your period is over, because your body hasn't had a real chance to get the egg into your uterus. (know however there are cases of the sperm traveling up the Fallopian tube and penetrating the egg.)
You can take a pregnancy test in early march though, around the 8th... that would really be the earliest time that the pregnancy hormone would show up in your system.

If you want to see when you are going to be the most fertile ect, I'd suggest using this website and putting in your basic info here:

http://www.babyhopes.com/ovulation-calendar/


-CalamitySami

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Okay, right after I shave down there. Its always really itchy and I get alot of little red dots on the side of my thigh, what wear people get bikin waxed. A few monthes ago, the same thing was happening, so I stopped shaving. And, the itchiness dissapeared, along with the dots. I dont want to stop shaving, cause, you know....But, any advice on whats happening and what I should do?

thanks

Well, this is most likely just razor burn. If this is a continuous thing, then I'd suggest trying using waxing or some other method to remove the hair other than shaving. You can also use conditioner when you shave as your shaving cream, it softens the hair, so its easier to cut, and it's not as noticeable when you miss a hair or too, and it sooths your skin and allows for a closer shave.

-CalamitySami

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Ok so ive been on my period for about a month now- my problem is im on this shot called depro provera its a birth control shot that makes your period barely ever come, and i havent had one in about 6 months. Well i am sexually active with my boyfriend of 9 months. Recently when we have sex i bleed, and now it just stays like that, and its hurt the hole time when were having sex and doesnt even feel good. What should i do? I have an appointment with the gyno soon, but what do you think could be wrong with me??

I don't think its too serious. However it is a good idea to go see that doctor. One of the side effects of these birth control shots, that they conveniently forget to tell you, is that when you do have your period, it will be longer, and a heavier flow than usual.My best guess it because your body still needs to get rid of the same amount of blood as it would if you had your period each month, its getting rid of it now.
But please do talk to your doctor, just in case it could be a very serious and dangerous thing

-CalamitySami

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If you are two months pregnant, would that show up on a pregnancy test even if you take it nowhere near your period (not right before or after)..I just took one and it said negative, but I have what looks like a little pouch in the front of my stomach, along with possible symptoms. Basically, are all pregnency tests 95% accurate no matter what time of the month it is?

Yes, they are accurate no matter what time of the month you test for. Pregnancy tests test for the pregnancy hormone, also called human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG). So if you are Pregnant, it will show on the test no matter what time of the month it is.

As for the symptoms. Pregnancy symptoms are similiar many different, you could be getting close to your period, or just bloating, or getting sick. If you are still unsure take another test (you normally want to take two for extra measure. First response is a pregnancy test that contains two tests in the box for that specific reason) Or go see a doctor who would do a blood test to tell you.

-CalamitySami

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so this guy who im practically in love with
fingered me for the first time a few weeks ago
and like it hurt but i thought it was cause he was using 2 fingers
but that night i realized that i could fit my whole finger inside me

did he pop my cherry?
i don't recall blood though

No, your cherry isn't popped. There would definitely be blood if it did pop. It only hurt because he was Stretching you.... If he keeps fingering you with two fingers it eventually won't hurt anymore.

-CalamitySami

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My boyfriend and I are both 20 years old, have been together over 2 years and we were each other's firsts, and about 4 months ago I started on a birth control pill, Yasmin, because we both decided it would be safe for us, but even though I am on the pill, we still use condoms for extra security.

Over the 4 months I noticed a big change in personality, I cry a lot for no reason, get depressed for no reason. Go from being o.k. to really mad. I also have gotten a major rash all over my body, and some smaller ones. my skin has also become dry and itchy. sometimes my arm or leg feels like i have to stretch it, like it is tingly, and doesn't go away. I am tired no matter how much sleep I get, I am very irritable and anxious. I also seemed to have lost some interest in my bf all together, as well as sex.

I have a feeling it is from the pill, and I have heard of other girls having strokes, major blood clots, and mood problems from being on Yasmin and I am considering going off of it.

The thing is, is do I stay on this pill, and deal with these problems and other potential ones, or do I go off the pill, but worry about getting pregnant by just using a condom? I just don't feel like me when I am on these pills and I want to go back to my normal self. But I hate the stress of thinking something can go wrong while just using a condom. I really don't know what to do. He wants me to go off of them for the sake of my health, i'd like some opinions please!

Thank you!

Some Birth Control can be a real pain, because it seems like there's more negative affects than good ones. I'd suggest going off of Yasmin and talking to your doctor about getting a birth control thats has a smaller dosage.
The first birth control i took gave me major side effects, and i would literally have a break down everyday around the same time. When I talked to my doctor we figured that the birth control i was using was too high a dosage for my body.
If you are willing to deal with these side effects for the next 6 months or so, your body will get use to it and get back to how you normally felt before the birth control.
Otherwise.... I'd say go see your doctor and talk to him/her about other BC's that have less side effects.

-CalamitySami

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i started Yaz a few weeks ago and i was wondering how long it took until it fully worked and my boyfriend can actually penetrate in me without me getting pregnant. i hope i dont sound to weird!!
thanks ahead of time.

Ashleigh

It should normally be safe to have sex after about two weeks, although i would suggest taking that extra step and waiting about a month, because it really differs for each person.
Just makes sure to still use condoms. Always want to be safe

- CalamitySami

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