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Q: Fourteen Female.
Okay so I hadn't seen Benamin since Friday and he wanted to see me, and my parents were out and still aren't home so I was like come over it'll be fun.
Well we were ust hanging out, like usual. Were friends, that yeh a little bennifits but it's just fun [[and no nothing below the belt.]]
Well Friday night I got Breaking Dawn-- an amazing book and we weren't doing much so I started reading it while sitting in the recliner chair. So he started messing with me and was like "Your such a nerd- only you would read with ME in the room." Which is true, a lot of girls in my school like him.. and like obsess.. =X
so he climbed on me, and tried taking the book away and he had my legs pinned with his knees and I dont know how it happened. He leaned and started kissing my neck.. and stuff. Kind of groping\grinding me. This is the furthest this has ever gone. We do kiss but its just joking. or just to me.. And a lot of people have been telling me to date Ben but he's just a friend but he's amazing and I was hoping to feel something for him but I couldn't.
So I let things get out of hand, letting it happen when all of sudden he jumped off me and ran for the bathroom. To say the least I was scared i did something wrong... hurt him. Or or something.
ten minutes later.. when he came out he was so red. And I didnt know why. He just started apoligising. "Katie, Im so so so sorry. I can't believe that happened. It wont happen again.. I swear." Just rambaling. And I was like What happened? he looked at me like I was on crack and I sorta wish he never told me. He was like. "Katie... I just got.. hard on you."
----MEH!
He left very sortly after that and I've tried talking to him because his friend Ralph called and was like duude.. you need to talk to him I swear he's gunna get a vasectame he's so embarressed.
=X I feel horrible. I could have stopped it before that happened and Ive been trying to talk to him. To explain it's not that big of a deal.. and he wont listen.
Is it normal for boys my age to.. get hard that easy? I don't know what these means. I mean im friends with him, close but. Ahh. I don't want Ralph making fun either... Can you help getting hard? I donno.. how can I make this right?
Well, if you DO like Ben as more than a friend..I think now would be a GRREAT time to tell him :D

And somewhere, I forgot where, I heard guys can get it from just their pants being a bit too tight! yeahh thats all I could think about when that skater guy hugged me and picked me up..
NO i dont have a dirty mind. Its just...who knew it could be that easy? :X
Sorry I couldnt help much more, Im not at all experienced at this sorta stuff.

But I think he likes you. Lol, or something. Soo just, like, I dunno give him a little gift. Not something too big. Just his favorite candy with a cute little note and a ribbon or something :D
I bet hed love it.

Q: 16/f. This girl, she's 17. She's more mature and experienced I guess. She does drugs and pretty sure she had sex. I can't really bring myself to hang out with people like that, yet she's still one of my best friends. She intimidates me. I can't talk to her without looking down at the ground and whenever I do start talking to her, I don't make eye contact and I really want to end the conversation. I can't talk to her online either...I get really agitated and nervous. I have no idea why. I can talk to my OTHER friends..just not her. Why is this? I mean, I like her...yet I can't talk or relate with her...
Well, I dont know. I sort of have a similar problem. Oi, Im especially nervous having her around the parents. Im not really sure how to solve the problem. I just change topics when conversation gets awkward. And if you still want to be friends with her and hang out, try doing things like the movies. Its dark and hard to talk. Or rollerskating! Gee, I dont know. But yeah youre not alone.

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xxDearLee
Most call me quaint. Im afraid to be blunt.
I dont get out much, either.
Lifes been pretty mellow lately, but I only see it as the calm before the storm. Its okay; I love the rain.
No I cant handle the truth. Just tell me anyway. I love having secrets and I actually sort of like being labeled.
I believe everything, the good, the bad, can change in a second. Someone please tell me otherwise? But I can be...well, stubborn and slightly insane.
Yeah, youve been warned.
I have trust issues and dont take things lightly. Im always asking too many questions looking for what I want to hear. Thats not the best quality to have.
And people often dont understand me, especially when I babble. But hey!
--Lifes short. Talk fast.And oh. I never take my own advice. Kooky, eh? Yeah, IDK.
forumfulness. experience the insanity..ZWOOOSHH

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