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Well i don't really like doing 'about me' bits, so all I'll say is that I want to help as much as I can, and I think i'm quite good at seeing things from the perspective of others, a characteristic, I've always believed, to be essential when giving good advice. Feel free to ask me anything you like =)

*I've added my email, should be somewhere on my page and if anyone recieves advice from me and just wants to ask more about their problem or what they've said, they can ask me through that if they prefer =)

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Hello. I am a 22 yr old female moving to Orlando in two weeks for a new job. I have a g/f who is going with me. The apt. has 2 b/r, 2/ba, but only one bedroom has the walk in closet. How do we choose who gets the larger closet? The bedrooms are the exact same size, other than the closets.By her own admission, she only has 2 totes of clothes, while I have a ton. P.s. I am providing all of the furniture for the common areas, and I did all the research into finding the great apartment.

Hey

Well, its a kind of awkward situation, I understand why you're asking for a solution. I would say that because you have the most clothes so you should get the bigger cupboard. But a walk-in closet sounds like its a got quite a lot of space, so how about you make a deal that if theres any of her stuff that she doesn't need access to all the time,like certain shoes or clothes only meant for a particular season, she could store some of them in you're closet, as imagine that you will not be able to completely fill it by yourself. That means that you will get the space you need but you're being considerate and allowing her to use some of it so shes more likely to say agree to you taking it, having realised how reasonable you are being. Chances are if she has such a small collection of clothes that if she does take you up on the offer it will only be a small amount of items she will give you.
You're definately entitled to the closet, I nearly always put my friends before myself, but if I was in your position where I'd done all the work for it and I had the most clothes I would just say to her 'considering I have the most clothes would it be okay if I took the bigger closet' and before she gets a chance to answer explain the compromise I suggested above.

Good Luck, hope you get it =)

Mike x

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My friend is taking lots of drugs.
I asked her what she's taken and she listed a lot of things including Crack and LSD...
Shrooms, E, pot... Much, much more.

)': It hurts me a lot to know this...
What can I do?

I want to help her...
But when she's not on drugs, she gets really depressed. and Cuts her self...

She use to cut herself, then got on drugs... now doesn't cut herself...


What can I do or say?

My advice may be to get to the root of the problem,find out whats causing her to take drugs or cut herself because even if that doesn't help her get of drugs straight away it would probably make things better in the long run. Just as long as your careful not to be to blunt about it, try and get her to talk through whatever it is thats on your mind. It is often said that someone cutting themselves is either because they loathe themselves or they are looking for attention, by trying to talk to her about what goes on/has gone on in her life you'll could deal with both of those.
I think what i'm really trying to say is, if someones gonna take drugs, its quite hard to just say no dont take drugs and thats probably what anyone else you mentioned it to would say and rehab or going to any kind of clinics all cost money, which not everyone has. So identifying the root of the problem and dealing with it may work out the best long-term. Just get involved in her life basically and make sure she knows your there for her.

Hoping things improve

Mike

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