Hi! I live in Chino Hills, California and I came to this site to see if I can help anyone who needs it. I am 15 years old and am known in my group of friends as the "voice of reason" :)
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I always tell people that I give advice to that I'm just a person who makes mistakes so before they consider my advice they should make sure they agree with it. They should also make sure it's the best thing for them to do.
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{A little lengthy but not a novel}
Okay so I have this friend who is a real pain in the butt! I know that has got to sound horrible but its the truth and I just don't know how to deal with it!
I am a sophmore and we have been friends since the begging of eighth grade.
She doesn't come from the best home life, parents were drop outs who got knocked up. She is a bit over weight.
She is nice, to me, and she is one of friends, we share locker together and everything.
What gets me though is she loves to make fun of others, especially people who are "bigger" then she is or who have disabilities. I hate that she feels so insecure and self consouse about herself she has to pick on others, but what should i say?
In first block she will even talk bad about someone who is siting next to me and I know they hear, and they think i am stuck up.
She also makes up stuff all the time to try to get attention. For example she'll say she didn't eat for 2 days and lost 20 lbs, and yet two seconds later she claims she went to McDonalds those same days! HELp
how do i deal with this without ditching her? She is my friend and i feel sorry for her, but i don't want to be pictured as the stuck up girl who talks about others with her. ANd I can't go one more day venting to my dog about all her lies.
WHEN WILL IT END. (link)
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First of all BREATHE!!!! I too am a sophmore and had a similar problem. Instead i did the wrong thing, a bad thing. One day she was talking to me about this really nice girl but she was saying she was a stupid dork and wouldnt stop ragging on her. I just broke and started screaming in her face and.... to make my point.... i wished i had done something sooner. She hates me now because of it, as do other girls. They *ALL talk about me (*all being my former friends) and they call me a bitch because of it. But from this, i can see what i did wrong. I SHOULD have confronted her about her lying in a private place and told her what was bothering me. I think that is what you should do for your friend. Just tell her that her lying and constant gossip has got you pulling your hair out (and torturing your dog =)). Tell her that its bugging you, maybe she will understand. Its just my opionion so think it over and do what you feel is right.
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Yeah, so usually I'm good at confronting my friends about this, but this time, it's kind of hard, considering that it's my bestfriend since the first grade.
Well, she's been dating this guy for 6 and half months, but he's been nothing but a jerk ever since they've been dating for about one or two months. To her, he may be really sweet, and I'm happy for her, but for some reason, whenever she's with her friends, he turns all bipolar. He'll accuse her of cheating on him and calling her ugly names when she's done absolutely nothing. One time, after he called her a slut, I told her mom and then leaves a voicemail on her phone saying it's over between them, and that he can thank me for it, which left her in tears for the whole night.
He's 17 and can drive and she's 15, almost getting her learner's. So, he basically shows up wherever she is, and the only real friend that he has is her 16 year old brother.
I've confronted her before about it, but it almost turns into an argument, which we both don't want.
Please, help? (link)
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ok so i really JUST went through the same exact thing.. almost. you see when i read this i was starting to think our mutual bff wrote it because what happened to us is similar to what is happening to you. I tried to helpand mae things better becaus my friend was being hurt emotionlly and i wanted her to stop, but when i did try to help it only made thngs worse! What i figured out is that she needs to make her own decisions. Sometimes its best to let her work it out herself, though it may be hard. She needs to realize this guy is wrong for her on her own terms. everyone fighting her will make her want him even more.
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