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I'm a college student majoring in political science and pre-law, I like to read and paint, I like to think I've been through my fair share of experiences, some good, some bad, and when answering questions, I particularly pick out ones to answer that are similar to a situation I've been through myself because lets face it, the best advice always comes from someone who's been there!

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how can i be a happy person if:

i hate where i live
i dislike every person who lives here
i am a moody person and get annoyed very easily
i go on and off with friends, like ill not like them, except one of them, for a week, then get annoyed with that person, and switch off (etc.)
sometimes i dont like any of them
after broke up with my bf almost 3 months ago, i forgot how to be happy, even though im over him now
i couldnt change friends even if i wanted to. the transition wouldnt be worth it.




please teach me how to be happy. i cant make myself have a better outlook on life. it just doesnt work. ill have happy times, but it doesnt last for long.what do i do with myself? i liked it better before i faced the reality of life. last year i was oblivious now after my 5 month relationship, i cant find that same high spirited person i used to be. where did that person go? how can i be that person again? how do i stop my moodiness? i cant help it.


thanks;;
xhopeless

try not to take this in a depressing way, but at some point, we all lose that "high spirited" person. And the one thing you could do to waste your time is to try chasing that person. Don't forget that as humans, we tend to exaggerate the past. The past is almost always remembered as "brighter, happier, and better" than it really was. As much as you'd hate the transition, the truth is that if you are so miserable where you are, you really have nothing to lose. I don't know you, or your friends, but from an outside perspective, logically, if these people aren't making you happy now, they probably never will. Re-evaluate. maybe the transition would be worth it.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years. And some acquaintances we know through my boyfriend's brother are getting married in another state. My boyfriend strongly dislikes the girl, and is not a big fan of the guy, but I like them both. I have attended their annual Christmas party a few times and never accompanied by my boyfriend. He has already said the isn't going to the wedding, but I am thinking I may. He is against me going, saying since he's not going, I shouldn't. The invitation had his name listed first, so I am not sure if it would be odd for me to go on my own without him, since they are friends of his brother's. These people aren't close with us at all, in fact I just see them at their annual christmas party. Perhaps, the invitation was just a nice gesture? What should I do?

Thanks!

I would go, and try to convince him to come with. Few people send wedding invitations as nice gestures, every head costs some money, and you must have stuck out enough to feel that you were worth putting on the guest list. If you want to go and feel awkward without your boyfriend, mention he couldn't come but it was important you came on behalf of both of you to congratulate them. Hey, if you have a wedding gift, I doubt they'll wish you weren't there!

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i flippin hate my best friend (we are both 15)

but we've been friends forever pretty much--- our friendship pretty much consists of us subtly puttin each other down in like jokes and shit, but I only do it when she starts doing it, so like you no it only continues the vicious cycle haha

no but seriously i cant freaking just not be friends with her

cause like im pretty shy until you get to know me---and no1 really sticks around that long cause they just get bored with me.
and she's got a really "strong" personality, if you know what i mean, and she makes friends really easily cause she's funny( her funiness pretty much comes from insults)

so i have no idea how i should act accordingly
any suggestions??

As terrifying as it is, you should probably start to break away from her. You don't have to cut her out of your life, but try and branch out with other people (I know, it's CRAZY hard!) This way, either she will realize she is pushing you away and shape up, or she won't care enough and will just let you go, in which case, you will already have some newer friends you might get along with better. She's your friend, which makes it worse because she can't see that she hurts you.

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