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My best friend and I a drifting apart because he has lately been drinking, using steroids and having sex. I'm not really against these things but I don't drink as much or anything as he does. We still hang out once every other week or so but it's almost getting awkward. Should I let this friendship go or try to rekindle it? I dont want to lose him as a friend but I also don't like how I'm drunk at a party every night I'm with him. Help?

first try drinking less when your around him... set a limit!!!
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Tell him how you feel, tell him that you like him as a freind but when you are around him you drink more b/c he drinks more, and if he likes you and dosnt want to lose you, he wont get drunk when he is around you and he wont let your or make you feel like you have to get drunk. if he dosnt stop then take a break from your freindship. see what happens and how you manage w/o him. and then go from there.
sorry im having a bad advice day...

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hey i was wondering if u could give me ur brothers screenname. thanks!

i think you can manage to get it yourself, dont get me wrong, i mean who wouldnt love having ppl use them all the time to get to thier brother?!?!

sorry if i seem bitchy,
o well
-emily

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wut do u like in a guy?...i want a big, detailed explaination plzlol

lol .... i like a guy thats outgoing but not cocky, makes me laugh as hard as i can, and isnt afriad to tell me how he feels about me.... a guy that will call me in the middle of then ight just to say i love you ... a guy who talks to me on the phone and when i say im "fine" asks me and whats wrong REALLLY wants to know whats wrong b/c we both know that im in "fine".....a guy that it just waiting until i wake up so he can hear the next thing i have to say .... a guy that hugs me and really means it... a guy that isnt embaressed to hold my hand or kiss me in front of his freinds.... a guy that i can talk to and he will actually listen... a guy that i can mess around with ...a guy that i can come running down the stairs to , my hair a mess and no make up oon and him say HUNNY YOU LOOOK GEORGOUS!!!

it dosnt matter what he looks like... its how me makes me feel and how his personality is..
hope i helped!!
GOOD LUCK
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*emily*

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My best friend in the entire world is going out with a guy that I liked..At one point in time I liked him and he liked me..but I never went out with him because my best friend liked him.. I dont know whether or not I should tell her this because, well they look really cute together, but the thing is, is that I think I still like him..
Clueless here..I dont know what to do..

I KNOW WEXCATLY WAHT YOU MEAN! im going through the same thing! wiat it out.. i know its hard.. but you dont want to ruin you relationship! if he still really likes you then he will probably end up going out w/ you at some point. I wouldnt talk to your freind until your absolutly sure that it is the right time and that she wont take it the wrong way and get all jelous! if you need any more help just ask! hope i helped!
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*emily*

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ok well whenever i'm with like just one or two of my friends i'm really loud and talkative and stuff but whenever i'm with like a big group of people and i'm not like close friends with all of them i start getting really nervous and i get really quiet and i start kind of freaking out and i think everyone is talking about me and i really try not to be like that but even if i try not to everytime im in a big group i end up being like that and i just want to stop being like that...

i think that alot of people are like that ......sometimes when you are in a group of pepople that you dont know you get a little overwhlemed as fo rthe talking about you thing i think that you should be more comfortable w/ yourself and be self confident that way whatever they say wont matter also dont give them a reason to talk about you i used to be like that last year and this year i am SO not lol things change and you will change you just have to be comfortable with yourself! if you need to talk you can IM me on SOURLIME11
GOOD LUCK
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*emily*

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Im good friedns with this guy but i wanna take it to the next level...it seems like he likes me but im not sure. We have messed around with each other but I dont know if he really likes me or if he just" wants some" please help

throw some hints his way! if it is meant to be then it will happen....maby he is palyijng around w/ you to get close to you ..or he dosnt want to screw up your freind ship....or he may just want to be **close** freinds. either way he is always there for later relationships! GOOD LUCK
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*emily*

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Ok. Well me and my best friend have been best friend for over 8 years. We hung out every day until she met a girl in my grdae. She really changed over the summer like her attitude and stuff. We never hang out because she is always with that girl. I mean i am not jealous i just want to hnag out with my best friend like we used to. We both dont hang out with the same crowds because she says that i hang out with the "popular girls." I just want to hang out like we used to. How can i say that but not in a jealous or rude way?!

i would say..."i think we have grown apart...and i dont want us to be total strangers later on" " i know we sort of hang out with diffrent crowds....but we can still hang out to gether"" or some thing like that...
tell her how you feel and that you still want to be friends...as for the changing thing...i have a lot of friends that have CHANGED ALOT too....everyone changes and sometimes you have to learn to live with it :O)......GOOD LUCK
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*emily*

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I have a friend and she has changed so much since last year. I want to know how to tell her what I think, with out being rude. There is no nice way to say "you've changed and your headed for the worse" so I need your help on this one. I don't know what to do???

~Baffled~

OMG I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOUR TALKING ABOUT!! i had an awsome friend who all of a sudden started hanging out the wrong ppl and then became another person (a worse person) the best advice i can give you is to just tell her...let her know how you feel...be gentle tho, say things like "im only saying this because it conerns me" and "i just want the best for you" tell her how you feel and why...hopefully she can understand you and consider your feelings and thoughts.......*my freind and i are more of best frineds than ever since i told her how i felt....* GOOD LUCK
i hope i helped
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*emily*

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written by friend :


Hey im 14 and this guy is 16 .. Soo we hang out all the time but my BEST friend hates him and thinks hes bad and stuff.. but whenever his around me hes really sweet my friend just says .. Oh he just wants a piece of ass and all this other stuff.. and i think my friends parents are itimated that he can drive ( because he drives me places). Were not going out by the way but everyone thinks we are becuz we act like it. hes a drinker too =/ liike he has this rep that he always goes to parties and gets drunk and throws up everywhere ! .. so yea =/ what should i do? should i stick with him.. i mean i like him but my friends hate him =/ PLEASE HELP

love can blind us...it sounds like this guy likes you ..but you never know if when he is drunk one night and he may try to take you somewhere and make a move.....your friend is trying to look out for you! if he has done anything bad to any of his previos girlfriends i would be VERY careful! GOOD LUCK
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*emily*

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at school i have no freinds...i am not popular eitehr...all i want to be is popular... i try really hard to be like a popular person...but i still dont become popular...how can i have friends and be popular?

first of all... you shouldnt act like your someone else.. be yourself and people will love you.""its better than to be loved for who you really are, than to be loved for someone that you are not""---- being popular dosnt matter....im sure that some people in your school are just dying for a freind.. try to go up to those people and talk to them. all that matters in life are your friends and family. it dosnt matter what thier social status is or what they look like...all that matters is that they are your friend..and they will be there for you no matter what.
hope it all works out and remeber.. BE YOUR SELF!!
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*emily*

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