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My best friend is going through a lot of crap in his life as far as his family and his dad's drug issues and such (which wouldn't have been a huge deal if his dad wasn't in a coma 3 years ago and is finaly getting his life back, but he's wasting it on druggies and neglecting his son.. plus his mom isn't in his life so hes being raised by grandparents and such because his dad is a mess)
So we were tight but recently he started treating me like $hit! He gives me dirty looks a lot of the time and it hurts like he11! I'm supposidly one of his best friends here. He's being nice to EVERYONE except me. he's being nicer to my good friend Aly than he is to me.
I just feel so hurt that he's taking out his issues on me. He claims he doesn't hate me and that when i ask stupid questions like "do you hate me" he gets bothered. And he also mentioned that i can be quite annoying at times.
So i'm not sure what to do...
I know he's going through crap... so should I be there for him to make him feel cared for as i was trying to do,
Or Should i just walk away for a while and let him be? (and see if he misses my prescence in his life and appologises or alteast starts being nicer to me)
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First I am wondering if you are a female friend of his? If so, man work differently. He is most likely pushing you away because you know TOO much about his home and family problems. Guys deal by pretending everything is fine, the important thing is that you are there when he needs you. Until then just back off and JUST be a friend. Hang out and be laid back about his problems, he will talk when he wants to so DO NOT bring them up unless he does. And as for him telling you to stop asking "stupid questions" never ask a guy if he hates you, for that matter never ask anyone that. Just take the vibe they're giving you and back off and be cool. It works every time I promise =) Just remember to be there when he wants you to be other wise you’re just his chill friend to hang with.
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