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Heyy, I'm Melinda... I'm 13 almost 14 growing up in Massachusetts. I have dirty blonde hair and blue eyes. I found this site online, and so I signed up.. because I'm cool like that. I like giving advice, dunno why though! My friends always come to me and seek advice, so yeah... Some of their questions are on here too. Oh, and if your some teenage slut that sleeps with guys and thinks shes pregnant.. then asks for advice... I'm not gonna give you a real answer, only because I'm not even in high school yet! So yeah, thats me..


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well i got in this big fight with my close frinds an ive been in a big fight with them befor but one of them i was really close with an she was like still friends with me an now all 4 of us like prety much hate eachother (two of them are twins) an the other one was like my bff but then i got really close with this girl allie an they all got jealus an no we hate eachother but i always think of her(not the twins) an i have dreams all the time that we became friends. Should i reach out to her an say something or just see if she does fist or just no say anything??

well, if I was you, I'd be the first to try and talk to her. If they were really all that close, why did you even get in a fight? Its too bad though. I hope it all gets worked out. Its not the best advice I've ever given, but its short and simple. Talk about it, and if it doesn't work, maybe the relationship wasn't meant to be.

Melinda

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i have a friend jackie and another friend jane i got in a fight with jackie because she lied to me now jane is being mean to me she is say all this shit to me and it is really weird i thought she was kidding at frist but then when i called her cell i found out she was at jackies house, jackie and i always get into fights, and last time she told jane to be mad at me too for no reson. when i talked to jane about it she was like w/e and we made up cuz i hate fighting with people. jackie said that she did not tell jane not to be friends with me but i am not sure if i believe her and i dont know what to say or do about it. help plz

yeah, that sucks.. Maybe jane was just confused about which friend to side with. She shouldnt of sided with either, and just have stayed out of it.. but, with the jackie situation, let it go. If she said she didnt, she probabally didn't. Just let it blow over, and hopefully she will apologize. She wouldn't want to loose a good friend, now would she?



Melinda

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i have two friends and i am in a fight with one, now the other friend is being mean to me and saying mean things to me and wont tell me why she is saying mean things. i asked my other friend if she told her not to be friends with me cuz we were in a fight but she said no and i dont really believe her. what should i do ?

forget the fight.. just talk to her. Tell her your sorry for whatever you did... if it was your fault, appologize majorly. As for the other friend situation - tell her you don't like the bitchy things shes saying. If she doesnt stop.. maybe she isn't worth it... but if you still want the relationship to work,have the other friend talk to her. Also; if your afraid to confront either of them, have another friend talk to them for you.. Tell them some things to say, as in, "tell her shes really sorry and didn't mean it. She just wants to talk to you" that usually works.


its just something that happens
as you grow up; you realize its
less important to have more *`'
friends and its more important
to have real ones.
- Laguna Beach

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My best friend is moving in like a year and she is sooo close to me. i can talk to her about anything and i have already lost 3 friends in the past year. its sucks losing friends and one particular friendship has been really hard on me. what should i do to make this one easier???
signed..
---- I miss them...

Dear i miss them,
well i know what your going through. and honestly, I asked the same question. You and I have to stay strong together with whats going on with Jess. I love ya bebe, and hopefully her mom stays in marshfield.

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Theres this girl at my school I was friends with her @ the begining of 6th grade but now,and i dont mean to be harsh or anything, be she really freaks me out. I dont care what she dresses like or looks like, but its her personality that really accually scares me. I'm really not the person whos gonna tell her to screw off, but i really dont want to be around her shes always near me in a few of my classes. She thinks were best friends, but were so not. I dont no what to do.
Signed,
want to let her down easy.

Dear let down,
okay.. [ hopefully first of all this isn't one of my friends who are talking about me! ] anyways... there is no way to let someone down easy. That's just how life is. I know how that feels, and i Know you must feel bad about it. Give it time and maybe she will get the message that you two are going your separate ways. It might help if I knew how long y`all have been friends for, but that doesn't matter. Do not shrug her off, nobody wants that. If it bugs you that much, when she does something that annoys you, tell her Don't however, say you hate her personality completely, because that isn't true. If you tell her what is bugging you- she might improve that behavior. If her personality isn't getting better, [pushes you even when you say stop, or laugh at you while your trying to be serious] ignore it or her for a while, life does go on. But that doesn't mean you need to give up a friendship! Hope it helped..

Melinda

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I have this cousin and she's in 6th grade and me and her are really good friends even though I'm 2 years older than her. Anyways, A LOT of my friends and older guys (like 14/15 yr old guys) thinks she's really hott and I think it's because she has big boobs for her age and to be honest, her bras are really padded. Well i'm sick of guys comin up to me and being like "god your cousins soo hott..she looks older than you!" and pretty much all my guy friends think she's hott and shes really not like "OMG SO PRETTY"..I just don't know what to tell them or what to tell her because it's so messed up..help please? oh yea, and my cuzin is eleven..

tell them to screw off. That sounds awful but its pretty much the bare truth. If you don't like it tell them!

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there is this girl at my school and all her friends ditched her and now she doesnt have a lot of friends and all her old friends are really mean to her. she used to be popular and she never really talked to me but i still feel bad. i feel like i should talk to her or something but as soon as this fight blows over she'll just dump me so i'm not really sure what to do

seems rough. I think you should be really sweet to her. afraid because she once was popular? think about what will happen in 10 years. Nobody will remember that fight. If you just try and be nice to her, you could build a strong relationship!! Hope it helps!!

Melinda

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What up, well my friend, well i dont want to say her name ill, lets just say her name is danica. Well I have a boyfriend Justin and i want to hang out with him. Well my friend is so upsessive and wont let me go with him without her because she wants to hang with me. I want time with him myself and ive told her that i just want one night with him myself and she said i dont want to be aroudn her and care more about boys then her. I've tried everything even lying and i hate lying and liars. I told her my gramma is in town and i have to go to the dinner with her. She called back later when i said i wasnt going to be home and she asked my mom "Did (my name) go with her gramma to dinner" and my mom said no she didnt. She didnt trust me. What should i do. Im soooo confused.

Now that is trouble. Tell her you need your space and deserve a night out with your boyfriend. If she doesn't take you seriously again, tell her it is getting annoying. Learn from your mistakes; There is no need to lie to a friend! As a wise woman once said, "Chicks before Dicks". Make a girls night with her once or twice a month. Go to the movies and mall then go home and have a sleepover with her- just the two of you! One on one time does wonders in a relationship. Give it time, and she will understand how your feeling. Hope it helps!!

Melinda

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I like this boy, and he has a girl friend. I hate her with a passion, mean as that is. I really know we are meant to be!! I just wish I could tell him. I tried telling him once, the night he and his girlfriend started going out. Lately I've been thinking that if I told him I liked him, he would have gone out with me. I'm just so confused. I even cut myself just thinking about him. What should I do?

- Confused Love

Dear Confused Love,

wait for when the time is right. And no, thats not the day they break up. It's when you feel ready. Maybe he has a little crush on you even though they are going out. You never really know with boys. But I hope I gave you good advice that works!! Still need help later? Let me know.

-- Melinda

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My friend is mad at me becuase i didnt invite her to the mall, but i didnt even plan the trip so i dont think i need to appoligize. What do i do then?

okay i think you need to give her some time to chill. You don't deserve the trouble if it wasn't your fault. You don't even need to appoligize. Tell her you didn't mean to make her upset. If that doesn't work, don't let her put you in a bad mood. But on the account of her, she felt left out. Obviously you too are very close, and she must have felt unwanted. So I hope my advice helped!!

-- Melinda

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