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I love my life because I believe that I live my life to the fullest and cherish every moment of every day (despite how boring some days may be =P).
I am only 17 (going on 18), but have grown more and learned more than some people a whole lot older than me. I have gone through many chapters of my life and also changed like a chameleon, but believe that I have finally found my color. Despite any religious background someone might have, I just give my advice through advice I have been given by reading the bible, listening to peoples problems (you learn alot of things by listening to your own advice), and also listening to public speakers of many aspects.
I am not here to be a hypocrite or as a person has once said *to promote my site*, but I am more so here to help.
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With love,
Kori

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I haven't really had a close guy friend before - I've had boyfriends but I was never their "friend" - if you get what I'm saying. I really want a guy friend that I can just talk to and stuff, but I'm really shy when I'm in public and I never know what to say when I talk to guys. and i don't know how to be myself around them. I know guys want to be around girls who are real, but i am so afriad of blowing my chances at a friendship that i forget to keep it real and i screw things up anyways. How can I keep things real? and how can i become friends with a guy? What kinds of things should I say to guys?
Please answer. thanks =)
- Im a female by the way.

What I think is going on is that you're worried too much when you're around guys. You said yourself that you are afraid of blowing your chances, but all you're looking for is a friendship correct? It kinda sounds more like you're looking for a relationship which makes you so much more nervous.

Friendships should just come easily, talk about whatever you talk about with your close girl friends. Thats the only way to stay "real". Just don't think of a difference when you're talking to a guy because since you're only looking for a friend, it should be no different than talking to your girlfriends.

I think a way that you can try to keep things "real" and talk to guys without being shy is to talk to them with friends around. You are more likely to stay yourself when you have your friends around you as your comfort zone. Basically, just act like they're your friend already & speak to them like you would speak to your best friend you know? (Well besides the real personal stuff, that may want to wait till you guys are closer =])

I hope my advice made sense to you =]
With Love,
Kori

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