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Q: I have 2 neighbors that I've been friends with for a long time. I'm a girl, 15, and they're both guys, 2 yrs younger than me, if that matters. Anyway, we used to always play outside together or play vido games at each other's houses a lot. About 2 years ago, due to personal family issues, I wasn't around very much for a long time, and I havn't really seen either of them at all. For a long time if I saw one of them on the bus or something, we'd just say "hi" and that's it. For the most part they ignore me. All the family stuff is cleared up now, but since school's out, I still havn't had a chance to talk to them. I want to still be friends with them, but what am I supposed to do? Do I just call them and ask if they want to come over like I would have two years ago as if nothing's happened? Do I tell them I feel like I've been ignored? Please help me, and sorry this was so long!

Go to their house, ask if they want to hang out. and go from there. don't use the phone, it is better to renew friendships in person.

Q: I just moved in to a house in Lake Park, NC. I have lived here for a week and I like this girl that lives across the street. I don't have the nerve to ask her out. Can someone tell me a good way to ask her out.

Signed,

newkid

using your dog might be a good idea just make sure she is outside. ask her how she is, and if she would like to hang out sometime. talk about what her hobbies are, and stuff like that, tell her about you and after awhile tell her that you like her, and ask if she will go with you.

OR...

instead of using the dog, you could write a little note saying i am new, would like to get to know you, i like you, i live across the street my name is- whatever your name is lets hang out. leave your number and put a rose with the note if you can, then the next time you see her outside use the dog- let it go free to her house and just ask did you get my note? and see what she says.

which ever you perfer personaly i think the 2nd one is more romantic, and it would get her to smile. the number thing well i would wait a couple days and see if she calls and then use the dog.

HAVE FUN AND GOOD LUCK!

Q: I'm a thirteen year old female.
Well I have a very bad problem with a friend. She thinks I am a backstabber because she thought I got mad at her for taking her old boyfriend, but I said I didn't. And she thinks im an annoying person because she said "Your like a mosquito that won't go away." I've tried talking to her, but nothing helped me. I tried telling her I won't be annoying anymore, but she didn't believe me. We have been friends since Kindergarten and then this happened....HELLLLP..please!!
-Depressed Anonymous-

Hi,
with this friend of yours, she must still have feelings for your guy now. and that is why she is mad. so if she is telling you that you are annoying and like a mosquito then here is what i say. i would give it one last try to talk to her. tell her that you want to be friends and you don't want a guy to come in between your friendship, and that it's just not worth loosing a friendship over. ask her what she really feels, and tell her not to lie. maybe you can work out something where you can have you kindergarten friendship and your man. if the talking does not work, the friendship wasn't the greatest. just give her time, she should come around and if she don't then just move on, you tried your best to keep the friendship and if she is going to be a noncaring friend that does not care about how you feel, or what you want then there are lots of other people that would be your friend, and who will understand. so talk, and just give her time. good luck. :)

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Hey there, My name is Heather and i love giving advice. i have helped my friends so much with their relationships, with family problems, and friendships i am best on these subjects. If you have any questions like these or anything else i would be more than happy to help.