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Okay , well I have this friend . And me and her have been hanging out for quite awhile and getting along and everything . But , then all of a sudden she starts talking to her more than me . And now we're all going to kennywood together and it seems like she wants to be around the other girl more than me. =[ I don't know how to ask her whats up with that w/o getting her to freak out on me . what do I do ?
Please help . I really really need it .
thanks

sorry. i kinda got rid of this so i dont really update. but i'll help you, i know it's late. but you should try to like make the best of a bad situation by like hanging with other people, not just her. but if you really want her back, then ask, but don't be obsessively annoying or anything. if she throws a fit on you, ignore it and have fun with everyone else. don't just let one person ruin your fun

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heyy i am reallly upset. i am always left out by me friends and i dont know what to do about it. When my best friend hangs out with my other friend she doesn't pay any attention to me and i am like not there. I kinda get mad and upset. When my best friend and i ahng out alone together we are like talking and having fun. All my friends are soo nice and i love them but i kinda feel left. Please can i have your help!!

DEAR LEFT OUT KINDA FRIEND,


well as you can see, if you want a lot of help, i had a situation like this so you can view that info if you need bc i dont feel like saying it all over again lol. but i will give you knew adivce. idk why but a lot of this friend stuff relates to my sister like i used for someone else lol. but anyways, my sister and this girl alone like by themselves are very compatible i mean they seem inseperable. but everyone knows that the girl has a best friend so that no one can take this other girls spot - even my sister. so anyway when the girl and my sister are together they're fine. but when the girl and HER BEST FRIEND get together, they act really mean to my sister and are mean online too. so my sister gets hurt. and also its like that for me. okay theres this girl (lets name her Kayla). kayla and i are bffl - not best friends but like friends forever. so anyway we've never hung out with just the two of us, but in a small group of 3 or 4, shes really nice and we get along great. but in a bigger group - she acts different and i totally feel the same way you do. i would just say confront her and also, try to be social like try to force yourself into having her like you. you gotta find what your best friend is looking for in a buddy, and then become that without like fully changing who you really are. but like be outgoing if she likes funny, or be caring if she needs attention - like that sorta thing.


comment back with questions,
HEREtoHELPx3

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ok
umm... well thak you for that information so i dont feel like im the only one in the school with this problem and i feel better but i just want to say screw you all those gurls who ruin my life


thnx
ex. friends or no?

DEAR FRIENDS OR NO,


no problem. don't worry. almost everyone feels that way.



glad we met,
HEREtoHELPx3

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yeah,
thank you! you made me relize whta is right infront of me and i wanna now wat happened to you


friends or no?

DEAR FRIENDS OR NO,


well i used to be really close with this girl lets name her Mary and we were like best friends and everything but around this year she got closer to this other girl lets call her Jane who is my bffl too. and now we dont really hang out just the two of us anymore (me and mary). shes still my bffl and the other girl (jane) is too, but i really dont have a best friend anymore and i like it like that because now i met other girls from other schools who i love so frikken much. i WOULD DiE FOR MY GiRLS!!! and thats what friendship is - love and care. and now im happy that i met new ones! and we may have our differences but the only way to find your true friends is to screw up and see who's still there :)



glad i helped,
HEREtoHELPx3

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hi!!!! im in 7th grade and i used to be best friends with this girl last year. but now in 7th, she has someone else a best friend. i really want her to be friends but i think she'd rather hang out with the other girl. what should i doo!!!! :(


signed,
friendless loner

DEAR FRIENDLESS LONER,

okay i have a few suggestions:

1) you learn to become friends with the other girl and then hang out with both of them. that way that you can hang out with your best friend and meet a new one :)

2) you confront her and tell her how you're feeling about all of this. if she's the type of person to be upset that she hurt you, then you're good to go. just ask her to hang out more often. but if she got mad and saying you're jealous or something. then give her space - maybe she'll come around.

3) find someone new. she has so why don't you? you may not want to but you'll find it more fun to be hanging with a buddy than to wait for one to come back. trust me, i know. i used to have a best friend too - but middle school absolutely killed it. she's still my friend but we don't hang out like we used to. and i'm okay with that becuase i've gotten closer to other people and i've made new friends that i can make more memories with. it's always good to have more than one best friend! ;)


-try those and tell me what happened. :)




and ps - 7th grade i found it very hard friend wise. all the girls are so emotional and they're mean to everyone. that's why you gotta love guys. hang out with some guys for a while until the girls are calm again. trust me, in 8th grader - things are much better and you find your TRUE group of friends :]

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