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Q: my BEST FRIEND has been for me since 2nd grade, and i dont want anything to come between us.

last year i went out with a guy, umm lou..sure...and he broke up with me...but ive always been crushing on him since. just crushing...i still flirt with others and stuff, but my best friend..uhh..zoe....nos that i "like" him.
lately shes been flirting with lou alot, and she came out and told me she likes him more than a friend. i was really upset, but she promised me that she wouldnt hurt me by going out with him or anything.
so now she told LOU that she liked him, and im thinking that they are soon going to go out, cuz my other friend came up to me and was like, "do you hate zoe now??" and im like why and their like "oops nvm" and so i think they're gonna go out or already are.
so what im asking is should i just let them go and break my heart..but still have my friend and try to forget about it-or let this situation hurt my friendship and make her realize how bad she really hurt me.
ill rate high nomatter what cuz this is longish...thnx

Just ask your friend, if she really is your friend she would tell you. if she doesn't then i think u should forget yours and zoe's friendship. she promised u then broke it if she does or is. I'd go up to lou and tell him this then ask him. hope i helped.

Q: i usto be like out all the times with friends girlfriends and all that stuff but life seems difrant now im hardly ever out im always just sitting in my room doing nothing am i depresed or something?

Maybe you are just wanting your own space for a while. sounds like you are an independent person who likes to be on your own rather than in a group. hope i helped

Q: this girl who i used to be tight with is sleeping over tomorro night because her mom asked her to as a favor for her. thing is, we arent close anymore..shes into drugs drinking and doing things with guys..and im not so much into that.
problem is..i have plans to hang with friends tomorro night and i think it would be weird to bring her along..what do i do to avoid ditching her in her face?

**she will be at tennis practice tomorro and i have a feeling she will be tagging along with me after practice..but i made plans to hang with my friends..i cant just say "im hangin with friends..go back to my house and i will talk to you later..**

help? thanks im desperate lol

just say to her nicely that you would rather be alone with my friends. Make her remember when you where close ask her why she has being doing these stuff drugs and whatever else. You can spend a whole day with her a different day from tennis. Make a deal with her like leave me alone this night and you would spend the whole day with her tomorrow. hope i helped.

Q: me and this guy were good friends in 7th grade then in 8th grade we went out then broke up and stopped talkin and now we r in 8th grade and we r talkin again cuz but we really dont know wut to talk about when we talk. can sumone give me sum ideas to talk about??

anything should be ok, talk about things you would with a friend, but not to a boy. that has happened to me once but now we have laughs and jokes together as i takl like he is my friend and nothing else. hope i helped.

Q: i moved away 2 years ago but i go back and visit every summer and talk to my friends at least once a week so we're still really tight. one of my best friends' dad just died. He's been sick for a while but i dont know what to do. I dont want her to think im abandoning her. I want to call her and tell her that im here and stuff but im scared its too soon. what should i do to tell her im here but not upset her more. its only been about a week since he passed.

If you are a close friend then just ring her every friend wants to know how the other friend is feeling about them, tell her you are there for her whenever she needs you, she might cry but it would bring your friendship closer as you are sorta helping her. hope i helped.