I am a sensible, reasonably intelligent student, and I will never give any factual advice without research - no guesswork here.
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I feel like its a part of my personality.. like I like to think things out rationally.. and I love to argue when I know I'm right, and ask questions so I can learn new things and what not. But I know it can be annoying to people, so how can I suppress such urges to not just talk about things in a nonchalant way? I tend to talk about topics deeply.. and the next you'll see me just joking about something silly. I want to act more lady-like and less offensive to someone else who may differ in opinion. And I don't want people to think I'm aggressive or anything. I'm just trying to become a better person by educating myself, as well as educate others by proving what they're saying is wrong with facts. Ugh maybe that's my problem right there. How do I fix this? thanks! I'm 17 btw.
I'm normally a chatty person and sometimes I say things at impulse.. and wish I was one of those people who are more mysterious and say mostly what's need to be said. I find that admirable. So how do I become this way? (link)
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I agree - a debate team of some kind would be brilliant for you. Being rational and having a thirst for knowledge is nothing to be ashamed of at all, I myself am quite similar and cannot resist an argument at times. There is nothing which isn't "lady-like" about your personality, and as for being offensive, it depends who you're talking to. There are many people who will behave similarly and so arguing with them about topics will have no effect because they like to do it too - they may be right under your nose.
I also find those kinds of people admirable, and although I do harness my opinionated self at times, you can't change who you are. Be proud of it! It's a great quality to have, and often those people who are shy or afraid of saying what they think will admire YOU.
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