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Weird situation here.
Or is it a situation at all?
I'm 13, and a girl, and this year I started at a new school. Our grade is reallly small, and there are 2 kind of...defined groups of girls. One is the preps, who get a lot more attention. The other group, which I'm pretty much in, can't really have a name, or label, because we're all really different.
Ok so at lunch today, it was so annoying, they don't talk. And it's not like they're just not talking to me, I know they're not mad, they invite me to their houses a lot- they just don't talk to eachother. No one is mad or anything, it's almost like they have nothing to say. They're not into fashion, or music, celebrity stuff, school, any other girl stuff, or any other HUMAN stuff. It's like they never watch the news, either. There is a never ending list of things to talk about in this world! They just don't say a word. When I start a conversation about ANYTHING, all I get is a "uh huh" or "mmhm".
I don't really think these are my friends...I mean we never do anything friends do. We've had like 5 sleepovers, and they were all really boring...to me at least...like I've never been mean to any of them. I'm not really sure if they like me. I am, what you could call "acquaintances" with the other group of girls, but not real friends. And I can't be friends with them because I'm just not preppy and I would never fit in with them. Even though I hear them talking about stuff and doing stuff I would always do.
I'm really confused because I've always had a best friend at school...and now I don't. And I really hate it, and I don't know what to do. If you read all this or you can help thank you so much... (link)
Sit with the preppy girls sometimes...talk to them...you dont have to dress like them or "be" like them...just be your interesting, informed self and i bet you will find that you "fit in" with them in no time.




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