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soooooo.....i have a friend that i'm not particularly close with but we've hung out before and i consider her to be an acquaintance. she's kinda a slut (to put it lightly) and very moody and not happy at all. I don't really enjoy being around her a lot and she invited me to her birthday party. i'm not sure if i really want to go or not because she invited all these weird people i'm not friends with at all (and i highly doubt she's friends with them either) and she didn't invite one of my best friends to go who she is also friends with. So....i don't know what to do. should i go or not? (link)
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Well just from what you've written, it looks like you should already have made up your mind. You've talked about a lot more reasons you don't want to go than reasons you do want to go. From how it looks, I would say don't go. You don't really like the girl and you're not really friends with anyone going so you'll have no one to hang out with. Just tell her in a nice way that you can't make it, or that you already made other plans for that day. Good luck
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okay so in the begginning of the year i saw this boy in one of my classes and i thought he was so beautiful. then we started to talk and we had this amazing connection. as friends. because he was in love with this other girl. and now they are not together anymore.and he considers us bestfriends and so I. but i have a thing with this boy who is so sweet and nice and is crazy for me.and i do like him but not as much as he likes me. and i will always have feeling for my bestfriend and I just recently i realized that i think he has feelings for me too. please help. (link)
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This is a pretty crazy love triangle thing going on here. Okay so you like a guy you consider your best friend and you think he might like you back. He used to like a girl but doesn't anymore and you kinda like a guy but not as much as he likes you. My advice would be to ask your best friend how he feels about you, but don't be forceful about it. You don't want to make him feel pressured to like you or anything. If you really think he likes you and he might be shy about saying it, maybe you should tell him you like him first so he won't be nervous that you don't feel the same way. I wouldn't go for the other guy who's crazy over you because relationships don't work out if one person likes the other wayyyy more, or if you like someone else such as your best friend. Even if your best friend doesn't feel the same, it shouldn't make things uncomfortable if you're truly best friends, you'll just move on and you two will be fine. Good luck and I hope everything works out
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ok, you see sometimes i really wanna say sumthin to my friends but i dont wanna get into a fight with them. Sometimes they say something that bothers me and i wanna say sumthin bak... i dont wanna be mean so i just dont say ne thing, but i really wanna. ?????? (link)
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Well, I have a few options to this one. One thing you can do is next time they say something to you tell them not to say it next time. If they continue to say it, tell them how you feel. I know how it feels when someone talks about you like you won't get hurt by what they say. Tell them that you don't like them talking about you disrespectfully like they have been. Good luck.
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hey alex...i really like this boy but my best friend is goin out with him...we neva talke ne more...she never calls me ne more and she like hates me...i want to stay best friends with her but idk how to get through to her that i love her and that no boy should get in the middle of our friendship..ive tried talk to her but it didnt work so well...plz help me:( (link)
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This situation happened to me, too. Of course it would be different because guys would react to this differently than girls would. What I did to get through to my friend was instead of waiting for him to call me, I called him and made plans with him. We kept hanging out and eventually the two broke up. Just remind her that you will always be there for her because you are her friend. Good luck.
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My friend well shes kinda my friend is mean because she tell people secrets and lies but when im around her (which is a lot) theres something that makes me like her and i dont kno wat to do! Can yuou help bt without hurting her at all? (link)
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Have you asked her to stop? If you have and she still continues to do that stuff, then just tell her that you don't think they make very good friends and that you want to move on. That will usually work and not hurt her feelings. Good luck.
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hi alex, ok my best friend just got dunoed by her boy friend a wekk or 2 ago she always talks aout how much she LOVES her boy friend when in the end she acts like her old boy friend was nuthing i tried to talk to her about it but she gets all mad at me and says well i dont let boys get to me unlike u! now she has a new boy friend! she didnt even know him one night her and her friend went to the movies with him and his friend and her and her friend at the end the kid she went with liked her and he asked her out and she said yes it bugs me she didnt even know him i think she only wants a boy friend and thaats not fair to the boys who asked her out!!!!! (link)
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I understand what your saying but I don't really know what the question was. I know what the situation was but I'm not sure what your asking. It seems like your mad about how your friend is with boys. I'm really sorry about this because I'm supposed to be giving advice and usually I can, but on this one, I really don't know what to say. I'm sorry but I have no advice on this one. Your friend was born like that and you can't really change her. I'm very sorry. Good luck.
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hi alex, ok i have a friend i luv her so much she is my bffl but the only thing is is that we fight over boys alot and i HATE it!!!! she likes this kid and he knows she does becauase she told him. one day i talked to him and was like listen if your gonna go out with her make sure u really want to and u dont hurt her because she is my best friend and i dont want her to be hurt AGAIN!!! so he said wat eva. they are really good friends but all she ever does is talk about him and now she only calls me 2 say go online and c if stephen is on i dont wanna be mean and so well i just do it i hate it!! i love this kid but he hates me before he hated me she was always telling me 2 get over him because he doesnt like me and that bothered me because i really love him!!!! i told her that and she got all mad at me saying i was getting involved when it was none of my buisness!! got so angrey and said w/e i wont bother with yours and stephens relationship!!! then she said ok fine dont! then she called me lata that night and told me to goi online and see if stephen was on so i just did it! i hate it i dont know what to do to make her stop talking about stephen around me its so annoying and wen i tried to explain it but she got all mad i dont know what to!!! sry its so long but i need advice i dont know what to do please help!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Believe me, I know what your going through. I have a friend the same way. Sometimes when he asks me to do something, I just put my foot down and say no, I'm sorry but I'm not going to. They will usually get mad, but they will get over it. Sometimes you just have to say no. I don't know if this is good advice, but it usually works for me. Good luck.
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my frriend really likes this boy but he hates her and i always have to stand up for he but i dont really care cause shes my bffl so i just do it but the people that make fun of her think im a bitch cause i stand up for her and be so mean and i tell her to just walk away when they make fun of her but she does it anyways and i m sick and tired of standin up for her.WHAT SHOULD I DO .....................HELP ALEX!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Well, you can try telling your friend to stand up for herself. Or you can acutally drag her away to make her walk away. At a last resort, you can tell your friend to try and stop liking that boy. Good luck.
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My friend thinks she likes sum1, but she's not sure. She tells me to tell him, but then she gets mad at me for doing it. What shud i do?? (link)
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Well, next time your friend tells you that, record her saying it or if it's on AIM, copy and save it. Then, if you tell the boy, and she gets mad, play the recording and or show her the conversation and just tell her that she told you and that she has no reason to be mad at you. Good luck with that!
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i have a friend...well actually she's my godsister.she's known me since i was 7 years old,so we are really close.she's 13 years old,she just recently turned 13 years old.she's real cool to hang with.she spends the night a lot,and she knows my family real well.i also know her aunts,uncles,grandma,etc.she's soo nice to me when we are alone.but when she hangs with her older friends who are my friends to,she tells me off.when i'm with my friends she like to show off an be rude to me.i'm really sensitive,and she hurts my feelings.i'm starting to hate her.i'm having a sleepover and my mom and her mom are best friends,so i have to invite her.and all my friends will be there,so she will try to ruin my sleepover for me by showing off and talking smack!!! what should i do? i'll rate high!!! please help!!! (link)
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Well, a lot of the time when people show off, it's because they have a low self esteem and want other people to compliment them when they show off. Have you ever just asked her to stop? That might help. Also, if she does some of that stuff, either ask to speak to her alone or if your sensitive and don't want your friends to see that, just take a quick walk or say your going to the bathroom and cool off. If all of that doesn't work, just tell her how you feel. Also warn your friends when they get there that you stepsister will probably be talking about you and not to laugh. If they don't laugh, she won't be encouraged to do more of it. Then she'll stop. I hope this works out for you, I really do. Good luck!
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