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My name is Jack and I'm 22. Sorry if this is long but I really need the help. I recently found out that I have a 15 year old half sister named sarah. I've been searching for her for a long time and I finally found her. Well when I first saw her I noticed that she had scars on her arms that I think were from cutting herself. The more I talked to her the more I noticed something was wrong. At first she wasn't saying much I figured that was normal I mean she had never met me before and she had just found out that I was her half brother. I've been seeing her everyday for about 2 weeks now and she still seems really nervous like she's almost afriad to get to know me. I've also been trying to meet my father but evertime I go to see him she comes to the door and says he's not home even though his car is there. I asked to meet her mom and she said that she wasn't home either. This goes everynight. Well this afternoon I stopped by without calling first so sarah didn't know I was coming I wanted to surprise her. I heard yelling so I tried to see what was going on but the door was locked. I stood there for 5 minutes before my sarah came to the door. She looked like she was limping and seemed to be in pain. She said that she was going to a friends house so she couldn't go with me today. I asked about her parents again and again they weren't home. Well after she left I went in the house I saw that my father was drunk and her mother was too. I think they could be abusing but I just don't understand why she would hide it. I'm really worried about her. She's a really nice kid and I don't know what to do. I'm beginning to form a relationship with my sister and I don't want to ruin that. Getting to know my father isn't that important to me right now because I've found something better. What should I do to make sure that suspicions are correct? and don't say talk to her because she won't tell me. Also if she is being abused would it be a good idea to turn her parents in even if she doesn't want me to? I'm thinking about asking her to come live with me but I don't know much about 15 year old girls. Would having her move in with me be a good idear or are there other options that will be better for her?
Thank you in advance

Jack

Hi Jack,
I have a friend that when we were growing up had abusive father that was an alcoholic and she talk to a school consler about it and luckly we had a suport group at school back then call Alanon is for children and teens whos parents abuse alcohol and drugs I went with her to the meetings every monday it would be good to find a group like this in your town the are a sudsidarie group of AA if any thing this will get her to where she can tlk about it. As for turning them in that might run her off for good even though it is for her own good she could end up hating you for quit some time its only been 2-3 weeks of getting to know her she needs to feel like she can trust you it takes awhile for a 15yr old girl to warm up to the brother she didnt know she had. Oh and as for having her move in with you that could turn out to be a dosy but then again some times its not that bad your going to have to understand that even though shes a child she going to want you to treat her like an adult. Be careful an good luck Hope I helped a little.

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