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Q: Picture This:
You live in a 8000 sq foot home. You have a 13 year old, a 10 year old and a 5 year old. You've been married for 15 years. However, you're married to a man who calls your daughter a stupid bitch, and your sons dumbasses and idiots on occasion. He's called you a lazy, ungrateful, fat, stupid pig. You've been fighting since you met, and it only gets worse. He's abandoned you without a car, locked you out of the house, and is distant and shows no emotion for your kids. Your kids are upset.
You're an english teacher, and there's no way you could afford the house on your own, but you're not sure what to do with it because it's on your parents land and you don't want to sell it to someone who isn't family. Your struggling, considered divorce, but you know you love him even though your kids get upset.
What do you do?
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Dear Picture This,
As a child I am suffering from my parents separation, but if it was my choice for my parents to get a divorce I would want them to. My dad is exactly like your husband. He has cheated on my mom 4 times through their 22 years of marriage and cusses out his kids and cuts down his wife, who by the way is disabled and bound to a wheelchair. He expects her to do ALL the work in the house and thats not exagerating. Keeping your kids in that kind of environment is not safe and can effect their future. As for the house, I understand how its put under your family name, but in this situation what would you rather choose? Your children or your angered husband and the house? I know how your children are feeling and they are suffering. They will try not to show it, but instead keep that anger inside of them when later theyll blow up. Talk to your children and ask them what they want to do. Your children should come first and you need to make that right decision for them. Before you get a divorce..have you considered marriage counciling? It can be a long process, but maybe it can work. Dont let your husband take control of you and your kids. What hes doing is taking his life problems and frustration out on you guys and thats not how you settle the situation. Let me ask you this. You love a man who calls your children names and conflicts situations on you that arnt even your fault, cuts you down, and calls you fat? Thats not love..im sorry. You need to get out of that house and take your children with you. Studies show that a person (usually men) that shows verbally abuse will later eveolve into physical abuse. Save yourself and your kids and leave.
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Sometimes in life people need a little advice. Asking questions is the way to help get through life and grow. I will be happy to help answer even the toughest questions and I will be glad to give you the best anwsers. You can ask anything: relationships, dating, beauty, loneliness, depression, school, friends, family, parents, religion, or life itself.
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E-mail: Gender: Female Member Since: January 27, 2008 Answers: 7 Last Update: April 22, 2008 Visitors: 2136
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