Hey! I'm Kristen. I've had an advicenators column awhile ago, but forgot my password to that account...so decided to make a new one! I'm 20 years old. I have awesome friends, a great family and an amazing boyfriend who I've been with for 4 years. I've definitely had my fair share of drama throughout my life-especially through my high schools years-but those experiences only made me a stronger person. That's what inspires me to be on this site and wanting to help people out any way possible on here.
I won't turn away any questions--And I won't sugarcoat anything. I'm here to help as best as I can. So ask away! (:
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i want to tell my parents that im bisexual but im scared cuz my entire family is part of the christian faith we go to church evey sunday and pray and all that stuff my family is very important to me and i dont want to lose them because of this but i dont wanna keep it a secret from them im not even sure when or where or how to tell them please help me!!! (link)
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Consider telling only one parent first if you think that will make the process easier. Many people find it easier to talk to one parent. Everyone's family is different; you should approach the situation in a way that works for you and your parents. Be prepared for your parents to ask you certain questions,too They may question whether or not you're sure you're bisexual, say they don't believe you, act as though you're just going through a phase or tell you that you'll grow out of it. Some parents may act as though you have a choice in determining your sexuality. Also, don't regret telling them if they automatically freak out. They will more than likely be upset at first, but you ARE their daughter. In time, they will learn to love you no matter the decisions to make. Until then, give your parents some time to think and talk about what you've told them. Not only do they have to deal with their own issues, they also must deal with society's stereotypes.
The fact that your family is christian may also lead to problems. You need to (camly) try your best to explain to them YOUR beliefs.
Explain to them that:
Gay is love.
Lesbian is love.
LOVE IS LOVE.
Let them know that you believe God would want you to be true to yourself, and not LIE and deceive everyone around you, by pretending to be something you are not. That would be a sin, wouldn't it?
No matter what their reaction may be, stay true to what you believe in. Don't pretend to be someone you're not. Do your thing, stay proud and love whoever it may be that comes your way.
If you have any other questions, let me know.
Good luck-I'm sure everything will work out.
Maybe not at first, but definitely in time (:
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