Well My name is Jessica. Im 14 years old and someday I'd hope to become a Phsycologist(sp?) or someone who gives advice.
I guess it's because I've gone through some of the problems on here including eating disorders, depression, or verbal and phsycal abuse etc. Since I can connect with what they're going through I'm guessing I can help or something.
Like a normal fourteen year old I like to be active, listen to music,hang out with friends, help them out and i also enjoy writing.
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okay so here is my story. my parents had me before they got married..but they got separated before that so i guess im technically a love child-but anyways thats not the point.
what my question is, is who should i live with as i go into my first year of high school???
let me give you a bit of an updated backround before you answer this not-easy question...
~dads house~ dad, stepmom, and stepbrother (17)
PROS: no crying babies, more alone time, more time with me/my dad, more attention(more like atleast some attention), good healthy food, spending money, dad usually takes me places on the weekends
CONS: i dont get to see my sisters grow up, i probably break the small contact that ive had with my mom to almost zero and i may be homesick because ive always lived with her since the separation, dad will be popping any zits he sees on me (ouch!), my stepmom has these 'moments' when she gets really pissed off and doesnt talk to anybody and she slams doors and all that crap to let everyone know shes mad**that lasts for days**and it is unbearable!!, and i hate my room (but i understand that can be changed)
~moms house~ mom, stepdad, half sister (5), half baby sister (14 m)
PROS: i have friends here that i get to hang out with, i get to go to the bball court and 7/11 and Osco with a friend(walking distance), i looove my room, school has been good(friends, no enemies, good teachers, good year)*so i am in hope that the next will be just as much fun*
CONS: my mom and i have little contact(i always feel like im bothering her), i cant stand my sisters(their parents didnt raise them the right way)+ i have no say..i am yelled at for yelling at them when theyre bad*mainly the 4 yearold*, i have no say in anything, i only get to see my dad on the weekends, my mom is too overprotective of me, were moving after 8th grade(and not sure if im going to my designated high school)*that means new friends and new neighborhood*(ive moved alllot), not so good food(so i go to fastfood places and eat junk-not good), and no spending money + i havent been shopping in like 3-4 months, no one takes me anywhere..i always have to ask for a friends ride
alright well even though there may be a bit of a lopsided diference..some 2 things combined equal to one thing on another list (and they are both equally bad)..so if you can help me decide before i finish 8th grade..that would be great. and please explain..dont make it a MOM or DAD answer....thx soo much. ill rate high!! (link)
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Hey
I think its truely up to you to decide who you want to stay with. It's really a though decision and not at all easy. Try spending a certain amount of time with both of your parents.When your use to both ways of living, decide which one (in your opinion) you liked the most, where you feel most comfortable, and happy.
In a way I would chose to stay with your mom because you have your friends nearby and school which is important, but I think I'd go with the dad, I mean he takes you places on weekends, he gives you money and he actually shows he cares about you,even if your stepmom acts the way she does after a while that can change.
You mentione that with your mom you feel like you are bothering her, think about it do you really want to live with a mother who you don't feel you can trust, little contact or you feel your just bothering her?
Where as with you father he is nice, he takes you places, he shows you he cares about you and that you can trust him (in my point of view).Anyway with your mom you have no say in anything, that's not fair, would you really like to live where you have no say in things and you get blamed and all?
But you know this is just my opinion. In the end the decision is up to you, although I think you should spend equal amount of time with each parent and do a little thinking. Ask yourself who you feel more loved, comfortable, and just happy being with and etc. Good Luck!
Sorry it was long.
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