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Here's the situation:
I am a Baptist. My in-laws and my husband are Methodists. My husband and I attend a Baptist church. Under most circumstances, I don't pay attention to denominational differences, because I think we're all going to the same place anyway.
The problem is that my in laws, especially my mother-in-law, have made it clear that they don't like the fact that we're going to the "wrong" church. Earlier we even suggested that they could come to church on Christmas Eve with us, and my mother-in-law burst into tears and ran out of the room.
Evidently, the fact that I am not a Methodist offends them deeply. I don't want to join a different church just to please them, though. Any thoughts on what to do that doesn't involve hurting everyone's feelings? (link)
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The main thing you need to do is sit down and have a calm sensible talk with them. Firstly tell them that you dont want to offend anyone and just want everyone to get along. Explain that you are who you are and thats not going to change but be willing to compromise, perhaps there are some times when you can go to a baptist church and others to a methodist (as a family im talking about) you dont have to listen to what is being preached but it will make them see that you care for their happiness and are willing to do to something about the rift as long as they are willing to do the same in return. I know how you feel in this sitiuation as i am in a simular one myself between myself and my inlaws and found the best way is to just ocmpromise and bring it up as little as possible!
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