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I am a 35 yr old mother and wife. I have seen more of life than most people twice my age. I have loved, I have lost, I was horribly hurt as a child and some since then. And in all I have been through it has not bittered me, but made me amazingly strong. I have been helping other people all my life. For some reason people just seem to be drawn to me. And I enjoy it. So no matter what your question, if I don't have the answer, I will do my best to find it for you.
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I have 3 children ages 6,2, and 4 weeks. This morning I was taking a nap with my newborn in his bassinet next to the bed. "Grandma" was supposed to be watching my 2 yr old daughter. I had woken suddenly hearing the baby cry, and realized the baby was not in his bassinet. I immediately knew something was wrong and called my daughters name and ran to where I heard the baby crying. My daughter had dropped her brother on a pile of laundry and ran to a corner when I called her name (she knows she isn't supposed to be anywhere near the baby without supervision). It turned out "Grandma" has fallen asleep watching TV, instead of watching my daughter. My daughter has picked up the baby by herself multiple times without out us even hearing, she does it very sneaky. She knows its wrong, but I can't seem to make her understand she can severely injure or even kill her baby brother. She has her own baby dolls we got her to play with, but she ignores them and wants to play with the real baby. Any advice please? This is very scary, it had me in a panic almost in tears.
A 2 year old understands way more than some may think. She understands "No!" and consequences. Everyone disciplines their children differently. Whatever way you do it (spanking, time outs, etc), you desperately need to do it. Your newborn could easily die. If she were to drop him on his soft spot especially.
I would suggest telling her if she touches baby without mommy or daddy helping her, she will lose all of her dolls (or whatever her most prized possesion is). And then stick to it. And give them back to her in a couple days and try it again. Whatever form of punishment you choose needs to be consistant or she won't learn.
I also think the baby gated idea is an excellent one. Then you only have to punish her for trying to get through the gate rather than touching the baby.
Also, she's probably jealous of the baby. I know it's hard to juggle 3 kids, but I think spending some extra one on one time with her would be make her feel that she hasn't been replaced as the baby of the family.
Hope this helps.
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