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Hello, I am a 22 year old FTM(female to male) transman seeking advice on operative status.
I am confused as to what constitutes what status I am in terms of the transexual operative system. I consider myself a man in gender identity, but I have not started medical transition, so I am still seen as a female on the outside.
I am unsure if I am even going to transition in my lifetime. I keep flip-flopping between yes and no.
So would that make me pre-op or non-op?
I haven't started transitioning in dress much seeing as clothes are expensive. I have a little socially, like my trans friends call me by my male name and refer to me as male. Unfortunately I have told many other friends but they don't refer to me as male no matter how many times I tell them.
Other then that I am still very much closeted and don't mention my identity much. I often find myself questioning if it's even worth me coming out if I planned not to transition? Could I still claim myself a man if I didn't transition? or would it be a waste?
It would be a struggle even if I did transition because it would be difficult for everyone around me including my family.
Very difficult to decide.
So do these things make me pre-op or non-op?
-Nathan
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So would that make me pre-op or non-op?...This is a question relying on opinion, and well whether your going to do it or not.
I often find myself questioning if it's even worth me coming out if I planned not to transition?...Of course, but only if your comfortable with yourself, if your satisfied with who you are and the people around you can't accept you then can they really call themselves your friends. And as far as family goes,they are supposed to be around forever, stick with you through thick and thin, love you no matter what.
Could I still claim myself a man if I didn't transition? or would it be a waste?...know you have heard this before, You are who you want to be and you can be anything. I have plenty of female friends that are lesbian that consider themeslves to be males, not only because they dress like one or have the sexual preference of a man but because that's who they really are inside.
Very difficult to decide...Ask your self,what is it that you really want, but also who you really want to be seen as. and then i you can answer this question....
Am i pre-op or non-op?...
Let me know if you need any help, i'll always be around nathan.
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