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I am a homeschooled girl, I'm turning 15 in about two months. I am doing this program for middle schoolers, where I go and pick up tons of work each month. Apparently, theres so much, that its hard cramming it all in a month, but I manage to get it done the very beggining of the next month, meaning I turn it in late. This happens, because either I didn't have parents take me because they were gone, or I wasn't done. Most of the time it was just not going on time. I expected a lot from myself when I was in public school, my grades were always in a high range. But now, I am failing three classes. Ever since I saw my grades, I have been feeling guilty for eating, sleeping, or doing anything I want because I shouldn't deserve to do what I want. I am so full of stress, I think that maybe another reason. I see a therapist that takes both of my parents sides, and my parents are divorced, but they still fight. But, I'm not going to drown myself in excuses because I've managed to do well in the past. There are lots of other stressful things going on, but I am just really scared that I'm going to get held back. I havn't finished the month of May, I tried to last night, but those thoughts of being a failure took over and kept me from concentrating. I have no idea what to do with the present work, but I do have goals for high school, I might be staying home again. Could anyone share some advice that could help me get my stress out and my future thoughts in?
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Hey There--
You already had a few answers but I thought I would share my story with you. I've been in a somewhat similar situation before and I know how hard it is to try and play catch up in school.
Back in the fall I had to go into a homebound program which is pretty much just like homeschooling. For about 6 weeks of fall semester and all of spring semester I was going to pick up packets of work at my school's guidance office several times a week. The only draw back was my teachers had a really bad habit of sending a lot of (overwhelming) things at once.
At the end of April I still had so much work to do-- it wasn't looking like I was going to pass my spring semester. In American Lit alone I still had 3 novels to read and write essays, take tests, etc etc. And I like you am such a perfectionist. I want to do well-- and if I don't I come down really hard on myself.
So, on to my advice. Talk to your parents. I understand that your parents are divorced and don't always necessarily agree-- so talk to the parent you feel would be able to understand your concerns best. Going to talk to my Mom and Dad about my worries was the best thing I could have ever done-- they were my strongest allies during Spring Semester.
They met with my principal, my guidance counseler, my teachers, my homebound instructor, etc and worked with them to help me. In my school district there's a thing where you can have a week into the next semester to make up any tests, work, etc if there are special circumstances. Perhaps one of your parents (or both) could get together with your principal (or the person in charge of the program you are enrolled in) and arrange something like that for you.
As it turns out-- I didn't need the extra week (which essentially would've given me all summer and then a week into the fall semester) just do the best you can. That was always my motto. If I couldn't finish a whole worksheet or do every assigned page in the book-- it was okay. As long as I was ready for the test. If I didn't read every page of every book and had to use Cliff's notes to help me-- that was okay. Just do the best you can and push through. It will be alright.
Talking to your parents will defintley relieve some of your stress. Dealing with issues like this is hard to do alone-- you cannot do it alone. You need someone on your side to help ya out when times get tough!
I hope that was somewhat helpful. Sometimes I get wordy ha. But I hope it works out for you-- Please let me know if there is anything else I can do to help you out.
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