Hi.
*Im not the typical girl.
*I have 2 brothers one of which is a twin (ilovehim)
*My hair is brown and curly and half-way down my back.
*I have a lot of passions such as...
*WRITING (i currently have 2 poems published and Im trying to get a book published)
*God, Im a strong christian girl.
*Listening, I would love to be a counseler
*Thats pretty much it.
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E-mail: kaleighlashley@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Georgia
Occupation: Student
Age: 17
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sorry this is so long.
i used to SI (self injure) like cutting and burning myself but i had to tell my boyfriend about it. i told him about 5 months ago and we have been together for about 8. after i told him i really tried to stop and i did for a little while. i havent cut (which was what i usually did) in about 4 months but now for some reason the urges i get seem to be uncontrolable. i knew that before i tried to stop i was going to get urges but i havent cut in so long and i figured they would be gone by now and they are not. well i tlod my boyfiend about the urges i still get because he is the only person i cant anything and everything to and he made me promise i would talk to my mum about it but i dont see the point because she cant do anything about it to help me. only my dad can because he has custody of me and he wont, he would just call me crazy and resent me like he did last time. i have seen a couseler before and the guy i saw was really wierd and i hated talking to him, although some of what he said helped me. i wouldnt mind gonig back into counseling with a different person but i cant tell my dad because he doesnt think i need to. and maybe i dont but whatever. i just want the urges to stop so i dont start cutting again. i know the little tricks like snapping a rubber band on my wrist. i tried that but it's not enough. i like the feeling of pain. i know how corny this all sounds.
anything to help is wonderful. thanks (link)
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First of all its not corny its a serious situation.
second, i understand almost exactly what you're going through, it will be my 5th month of not cutting this month. I'm sorry to say the urges never go away, you can try everything in the book but until you settle it in your mind that it is just as satisfying then you wont feel like it is.
about the whole going to a counseler, i think its a good idea, only becuase thats what helped me. telling your parents may not help you alot but they need to be aware of whats going on in your life. you dont have to tell them every little detail, and i dont suggest it, just tell them the basics. you can also go to your local bookstore and look at some books on it,
if you want more advice feel free to talk anytime.
hope i helped a little.
-kaleigh
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You answered this question of mine about cutting recvently, this was you reply.
First of all...
thats something im struggling with right now, ive gone to numberous counselers and they've all said the same thing, do something else replace it. Ive tried rinning writing singing dancing almost everything in the book. Ive not replaced it with drinking or smoking only becuase i know that i have a problem now and i dont want another one. Its so hard to stop. last year i stopped for 4 months but then i slipped up and did it agin. Right now I am on a 3 1/2 month streak, and still struggling. All i can tell you is look to the people around you. surround yourself with people that love and care about you. try not to be alone when you have the urge to cut, call your friends cry to them let them be your shoulder to cry on. I know it almost seems impossible and that sometimes its like you just cant stop or live without it, but like when you want to the most think of it like your not only hurting yourself, your hurting the people you love the most. Theres no real cure for cutting, all you can do is TRY and replace it, like i know its getting tough but this is the time that matters the most. try and replace it, find your passion. replace it with fun. thats the only way you will overcome it.
I hope i helped maybe just a little.
if you want to talk ANYTIME, feel free.
Do you have AIM? So I could talk to you.
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yeah...its
kaleighlashley
but i dont get on that much becuase we dont have internet at home, and the only time i am able to acess internet is at the library. but feel free to talk anytime you need to.
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