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my best friend was abused by drugs and got on them and so much more by the time she was 6. her dad died. her mom went to jail. her aunt took her and her sister so they wouldnt get put up. but their not legally adopted. she refuses to use her aunts last name. her real mom keeps calling and leaving messages or coming over. i thought she had a restaining order or sumthing. but everytime, my friends aunt is screamin at her and her sister and makes them leave they cannot see or hear or even a picture of their mom. but her mom left in a message that she also gave them all aids and that they have 3 brothers they never met. so she cant see her brothers she doesnt even know who or were they are. she fights nonstop with her mom. she is bipolar and im afraid shes gona hurt herself. shes either extremely happy or extremely mad. her life is hell and always is crying but then at times she acts like nothing is wrong. she was abused by drugs from birth to 6 and got hooked. shes now 14 and her sisters 16. they both have many things wrong with them and diseses and AIDS. im tore up about this but i am still her best friend and always have been since she came to my school and next year were going to different highschools. think, her carrying drugs and smoking she started carrying them at 4 till 6 and faught with her aunt for very long time. when she took them away. i just need to know how to help her. shes still to young for any of this. (link)
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I agree with LolaMarie. I wanted to add that maybe you should suggest that she see a psychologist or therapist on a regular basis if she doesn't already. There is probably a psychologist at your school who can help. Actually, you might want to ask to see the psychologist because s/he can probably give you good advice on how to help your friend. Also, I wanted to once again emphasize that your friend and her sister need to be tested for HIV/AIDS A.S.A.P. if they have not already been tested.
Just try to be there for her. Listen to her. Try to cheer her up when she's down.
That's a lot for you to go through to have a friend in her situation. Don't forget about yourself. You need to make sure you're okay, too. You can't help her that much if you're falling apart.
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18/f - For years, i've had restless nights. to the point where i would be tossing and turning in bed for hours. some nights, i fall asleep like a baby, but then get up in the middle of the night and can't fall asleep for hours. i dont drink caffine, my room is normal condition, no lights, no noises, no messes. ive never been able to talk to a doctor about it, but it happens alot when im stressing out or dealing with alot of stuff, like after my dad died, i slept and slept. but even when i get 7-9 hours, IM STILL TIRED. its getting annoying because nothing is helping me. i have, yes only once, had a friend give me a sleeping pills because i went days without sleep, and it made me fall asleep and i wasn't tired after 7-9 hours of sleep. (thats was over a year ago btw) do you think i should go to a doctor and talk to them? any ideas how to fall asleep cause im having that problem now.. thanks. (link)
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You should definitely talk to a doctor. Actually, I think you should talk to a psychiatrist as your insomnia seems to stem from anxiety. After losing any close family member, it's wise to see at least a grief counselor, at the very ;east (even years later). I have a lot of experience with what you are talking about. My sleep cycle has been very messed up since my sister died (and was messed up before then).
Here are some random tips (some of which you might have tried already):
-Get up at the same time every day, even on the weekends.
-Make sure you do not have a clock visible from your bed (clock-watching can really keep you up because it makes you anxious about how much time you have before getting up).
-Use your bed only for sleeping- do not do homework or other activities on it (makes it easier to associate your bed with sleep).
-Only get in bed when you are tired.
-Get lots of sunlight during the day.
-Like you said, no caffeine. Especially after 4 pm.
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