Hello my name is Ashley and I am 14
I have been riding horses for 8 years
I have two horses named Toby and Savannah
In my opinion, school isn't all that great
And I am here to offer help with anything you need
Gender: Female
Location: Maine
Age: 14
AIM: ashleymarie854
Member Since: February 14, 2008
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I was around 7 when my brother n law started talking to me about sex and little kisses here and there began, the touching started around 10 or 11 and then all the way when i was 12,i told my sister a few years later when i was about 14, she promised she would not hate me and things between us would not change, we were so close even though she is more then 10yrs older, but she lied when i was 18 it finally came out to the whole family, and i was told to deal with it i couldn't stand to be around him, but they said deal with it.so i've tried, at his son's funeral i felt sorry for the bastard, i went to hug him and he held me tight and said do you know how many beautiful women have hugged me tonight god help me i thought i'd die.i;ve tried shrinks and its all still in my head, how do i get my sister to love me again?shes convinced it never happened, and i just want it all to go away, it has been over 15 yrs of hell, any advice much appreciated. (link)
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Ok first off...
Just to clarify....this isn't your fault!
Your family shouldn't have told you to deal...this is a very traumatic experience for someone to go through! They should be there for you! You should not be expected to be around him, what he did to you is horrible! The way you choose to deal with it is yours. I mean you can get medication from your doctor to block the memories...or you can talk to your "shrink" and just talk about it. You can also confront the man who molested you and ask him why he did it. And clear it up that way. Or maybe write your self letters explaining what you are feeling and then mailing them to that man. This might make him see how he effected you...if he doesn't alreay know! I know you want to get over this, and I don't blame you. I also have another suggestion...horses. If you live near a horse farm, I would suggest going to ride for a little bit, and bonding with them. I have seen the results with rape, mental and physical dissabilities and depression. They turn your life around. So I would try it, you might think at first they are smelly and dirty, but I guarantee it will help if you mindis open and you really want to deal with this. And if you don't think you have enough time, then try taking a weekend far in advanced, and get excited about it. You will instantly feel a connection with the horse. It will hurt your bottom, but its really fun!!! And about the whole sister loving you thing...I think you first need to come to terms with the situation, before you can go and talk to her. If she doesn't think it happened...then I don't think there is any hope in trying, when someone mind is set in one direction, then it porbably won't change just by talking to her. It sounds like you have already talked to her, and it didn't work. You can't make anyone do anything, unless they want to change their mind. So sorry about your sister, but I think the most important thing is to help you get over it, and to make your mental health a lot better. I hope I helped, and if you need anything else you can IM me on AIM at ====> xxAMS15xx
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This is for any cutters out there.
Im an ex-cutter who is still stuggling.
It would be greatly appreciated if anyone could tell thier cutting stories.
Also mention the country you live in-this is out of curiosity as im an aussie and would like to know how much this happens in australia and other countries. (link)
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I have been cutting for about 2 years now...
And its not bad in my opinion!
Yes, I know I am hurting myself, but its a way of dealing with stress.
I mean some people cry, or hit walls...but I ijust hurt myself instead of burdening outhers with my problems...
I became friends with the social worker, and she doesn't think I am a threat to myself....
So I keep doing it...by todays standards, its wrong, but its a way to deal with stress
And if you want to stop.....try taking an ice cub and rubbing it really fast on your skin, it burns!!! lol
So yea, I am from the U.S =]
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