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Q: I get so angry at myself, because i feel like i can't attract anyone worth attracting. Theres guys out there that like me, but they wont leave me alone! and i have no feelings towards them. and then the people i like, i tell them that i like them, but they dont feel the same way. am i the underdog in this situation?
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wow, it sounds to me that you seem to be having some pretty bad luck. maybe you should just back off the guys for a little while, at least until you can just think about what it is that keeps going wrong. although it may just be random, it may just be that those guys were set on someone else at the moment. it's probably just a bad streak that will end soon enough, don't get too down on yourself...hope all goes well ^_^
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Q: I'm not sure but I may be a victim of emotional abuse. I've been with my guy since high school, more the half of a decade ago, and we have a child together. Now he doesn't call me names and put me down to my face, though he's come close before, but it's like whenever he's in a bad mood he takes it out on me, he blames EVERYTHING on me that comes to his mind. It makes me feel really low. I think he does it to make himself feel better but then I feel like total crap and I hang my head down and sigh for like hours. Sometimes I get so sick to my stomach over it. It's just this vicious cycle that keeps on going. He acts nice again and I love that person that he is when he is nice so I forget everything and am able to relax again for a little while. But when he changes faces again I'm like, "Oh why do I put myself through this, here we go again." I feel like such trash for putting up with it. I just love him so much, and I know he loves me but wonder if there's a part of him that hates me because he has to blame so much on me. And if I say anything when he is angry, ANYTHING, it makes him angrier and he doesn't listen to anything I have to say. His father treated his mother like this and I think he's following in his footsteps. I don't want my son to think this is how a man is supposed to treat a woman. So I'm just wondering if this is considered emotional abuse. Thanks.
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if his words hurt you in any way, then it's emotional abuse. many times in these sort of cases, the abuser does not know what he's doing. the best thing you can do at the moment is try to talk to him. tell him exactly how you feel, say it in an appropriate manner, but don't hold anything back, or it will just build up and make it worse. if he does not change, or the abuse worsens, you need to tell him that he'd better go see a counsler because you don't want your son to turn out like that. there is no reason for what he does, and don't ever try to make excuses for it. if he won't go by himself, then you should probably offer to go with him. i hope all goes well, and i hope this helped you... ~here to help~
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bio
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Hokay...so. My name is Leah. If you need/want to know anything else, don't be afraid to send me an IM or check out my MySpace (URL above).
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Website: E-mail: Gender: Female Location: Maryland Occupation: Student Age: 16 AIM: Member Since: December 15, 2004 Answers: 6 Last Update: December 27, 2004 Visitors: 1893
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