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OK I'm 17 years old, and never had a boyfriend. Sure Ive had people ask me out, but they weren't my type, and it has been about 3 years since a guy has liked me. Recently I have started liking this guy, but he doesn't seem to notice me. How can i get him to like me, let alone notice me? and is it pathetic to have not have a real boyfriend by now?
thanks for your time!
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First off, at least you know what guys are your type! Most girls go through high school, figuring out what their type is and sometimes by the time they are in college, they still dont know! So good for you, that you know what your type is. Next, im sure guys have liked you but guys wont always tell a girl when they like her just like a girl wont tell a guy. we have all scared ourselfs into rejection. You cant make anyone "like" you and you shouldnt. You should have someone like you for you, sounds corny, I know but its healthy to have someone like you for you. I didn't have a real boyfriend till my senior year and now when I look back at it, I dont think he was a "real" boyfriend. He was my boyfriend but if I stayed with him, I wouldn't have grown up to the person I am today. No, it is not pathetic. Youre young and should take your time finding someone. They will come sooner or later. You can start talking to him to get him to notice you. If you have a class together, ask him if hw was due, how his weekend was. Small talk really. If you go to school together but no class together, try doing extra curricular activites that you know he will show up to. If he is a sports guy, go to a basketball game, in your team colors with a couple friends and be loud. :) No one will recoginze you unless you talk to them though. Good luck!
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so my boyfriend and i have this agreement that when we go out and party we tell each other first and then call each other when we get back to just say a quick goodnight and to make sure we got back fine because we live far apart. He has been going out a lot lately and i haven't. And he keeps not holding his end up but it really hurts me because i expect it and then it doesn't happen. We have been through it and i threatened to break up with him over it before. I don't want to end our 2 year relationship over something this stupid because i know he hasn't cheated or done anything deliberately to hurt me. He gets home and passes out. Meanwhile, I wake up and then cry myself to sleep. I know, pathetic right? Anyway it causes a lot of emotional pain and i don't know what to do. If he can't keep up his end it feels like he just doen't care at all about how i feel. (link)
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NO, you are not psycho! :) what you are asking for is so little that if he cant do it you need to talk to him about it. you both have been together for 2 years and built trust over that period and once trust is gone, it is extremly difficult to get it back. i know a lot of women who would go out just because their boyfriend is going out and you are not that way which is a very good quality to have! you said you know he hasnt cheated on you, so think about this when your in bed. you trust him, he went out and told you he was going out. he had a couple drinks, gets home safely, passes out and texts or calls you the next day. if you put yourself in that state of mind where you think he is doing things he shouldnt be doing, you will drive yourself crazy. call him tonight or whenever you both are free. talk to him about. tell him you understand that sometimes it happens. you go out, you come home and pass out. tell him that you both agreed (if you both did that is) to telling the other when one of you goes out and comes home because you need that closure. you would like him to start doing it. he should understand. love distance relationships are extremly hard. ive been in two myself. what you need to maintain a long distance relationship is communication and trust and you can get through it. so good luck talking to him and i hope it all works out in the end for you.
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