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People have come to me for advice for decades now. I think it's because I take notes on life, my experiences, and my research, I avoid (as best I can) being preachy, and I try in some way to remind the inquirer or concerned party that what I'm saying is only from me, one person.
I have to admit that verbosity, or being too wordy or long-winded, is my downfall. I'm definitely working on and getting better about it. But, hey, everyone has one, right?

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soo i met this guy at work and he gave me his number and told me to text him sometime. soo i did and we hungout twice after that. we hooked up and watched a movie and i'm starting to feel something for him, like i can't be around him without smiling he just makes me happy. when we hangout he's super flirty and i can tell he's into me but when we text it doesn't seem that way. like he'll give me like a couple word answers and stuff. i've texted him first the past 3 times we've talked but i've made excuses to text him like stuff like "you left something at my house" and stuff like that. i was texting him last night and i don't plan on texting him today cause i want to see if he texts me but i really want to. do any guys do this for a reason? he told me he wants to hang out again but he hasn't picked a time and date and place and stuff. what do you think about thiss?

So, first I must say that I'm a chick advicenator. I must follow by stating that I consider myself to being,often, a half-dude-type thinker. Now, having said that...
While agree with the gist of the last advicenator's response I would have to encourage a change in it's focus. The last response focused on what you should or shouldn't do based on how this guy could be perceiving you. You might consider returning the focus on you.
Do you wanna be someone who wastes valuable time, and remember you are a valuable person, wondering whether or not your interest's time is spent thinking of you? Or would you rather spend your time doing what you want and/or need to, focusing on the parts of you and your life (i.e. hobbies, activitie, friends, family)that are positively rewarding?
What's my point? Does he like you? Is he not interested in you in a mutual way? Who knows? Does he know that you're interested in him? Yes, one would hope so by this point. So, for now, relax and do the things that you wanna do. And this, in turn, will give him the time and space to value his own time! Respect is a beatiful thing, and this is a way for you to respect yourself and him!
So, I hope this response helps at least as much as the last, and should you have further inquiries or concerns you have only to ask!
Good luck,
Jaime :-)

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