Let me just start off by saying I do not judge nor do I hate, I have the heart and mind of Christ, therefore there is nothing you can discuss , or confess to me That will change that, you can be totally you and not be condemned, I am lead and guided by the holy spirit into all truths in answering your questions, so if it's comfort, love, understanding with unconditional motherly love in hopes of building a better you, and a better circumstance, then allow me to be led by the holy spirit to righteously guide you on your right path.
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MINISTER JOY DIVINE
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I'm 22/f and I started this "relationship" with this guy I've known for over a year. It's basically FWB in a nutshell. Now we tried this before but he accused me of catching feelings and he refused to talk to me for months. He came crawling back not even a month ago and we started again. Ok, so at first he had all these rules about how Im not allowed to catch feelings this time and at first I didn't. We did what we did and that was that. Then he started telling me I could stay after we'd have sex and we would stay up all night and talk and laugh. And then when we did go to sleep he'd hold me or pull me up to his back and I'd just go with it because why not? Still he would be adamant on how I was nothing more than a fuck buddy. Now his ex started coming back into the picture, and he says hes still partly in love with her and I thought everything was over. But he still invited me out, hell we even got busy before he was going to see her. The thing that threw me the most was, when he was saying bye to me and going to her he kisses me goodbye. This guy is so full of mixed signals and crazy rules, but just now he even made it clear if I catch feelings for him, it's all over. It's like he's allowed to make me feel, but I'm not allowed to feel it and it's frustrating. I know i sound pathetic i already know. I just want to know what to do, I think I'm in love with him, but I'm not allowed to be. (link)
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FIRST OFF LET'S NOT CALL OURSELVES DUMB. I TO HAVE BEEN IN MANY ISSUES WHERE I'VE FELT WRONG OR RESPONSIBLE FOR MY OWN PAIN WHEN IN FACT YOU ARE JUST BEING OR SHALL I SAY ACTING OUT TO NORMAL FLESHLY CARNAL FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS,NOT SAYING THAT THEY ARE RIGHT BUT NOT DUMB, JUST EARTHLY NORMAL.
OK FIRST OFF YOU ARE BEING USED AS AN SEX OBJECT, ANY WOMAN WHO ALLOWS HERSELF TO GIVE THE MILK UP FOR FREE WHY BUY THE COW, I KNOW YOU'VE HEARD THAT EXPRESSION, THINK ABOUT IT. YOU ARE EVERY EVIL WICKED HEARTED MAN'S DREAM. THEY ALL WANT A WOMAN THEY DON'T WANT TO COMMIT TO BUT SATISFY THEIR MANLY NEEDS, A MAN NEEDS A WOMAN WE ARE A GIFT TO THEM. I DON'T KNOW IF YOU ARE FAMILIAR WITH THE BIBLE OR CHRIST BUT IN THE BEGINNING ADAM WAS LONELY SO GOD CREATED EVE. MEN HATE TO BE LONELY AND A FLESHLY CARNAL MAN FOR SOME REASON TEND TO BELIEVE THAT SEX FIX EVERYTHING THING, ITS SORT OF LIKE A DRUG THAT SEDATES ALL PAIN. YOU ARE HIS SEDATIVE DRUG AND THAT'S IT NOTHING MORE. AGAIN MEN HATE TO BE LONELY AND CRAVE FOR TOUCHING HOLDING AND SEX IT'S IN THEIR DNA. BUT THE WICKEDNESS OF THEIR HEARTS WON'T ALLOW THEM TO PURSUE THESE NEEDS IN A GODLY MANNER ONLY A FLESHLY CARNAL , SELFISH MANNER
CALLED
USING
ABUSING MENTALLY
AND DESTROYING OTHER LIVES
NOW ATTACHING THEIR PAIN TO THE OTHER SEX.
THE REASON WHY HIS HEAD IS IN MORE PEACE THAN YOURS IS , IS BECAUSE BY STATING IN THE BEGINNING
YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO CATCH FEELINGS AND YOU AGREED, BY THE WAY YOU NOR HE IS IN CONTROL OF THAT , BUT BY STATING THE RULE AND YOU FOLLOWED FREES HIM OF ALL GUILT, IN TURN ENTRAPS AND IMPRISONS YOU.
NO IT'S NOT PATHETIC, IT'S A DESCRIPTION OF YOU NOT KNOWING YOU
WHILE COMPENSATING THIS KIND OF TREATMENT TO MASK AND HIDE SOMETHING WITHIN YOU THAT YOU ARE NOT READY TO COME IN TERMS WITH . YOU DON'T LOVE HIM NOR YOURSELF AT THIS POINT. HIS REASON IS SELFISH, LUST AND GREED. YOUR REASON IS NO SELF IDENTITY , NO PURPOSE, LOST, INSECURITY, FEAR OF REJECTION, AND FEAR OF BEING ALONE , WANTING TO BE LOVED. FOCUS ON THIS SCRIPTURE, IT IS TRUE. THE MORE I MEDITATED ON IT THE MORE IT MANIFESTED ITSELF TO ME AND THEN BECAME ATTACHED TO MY HEART AND NOW APPLIED ITSELF TO MY LIFE AS A SECOND NATURE AND HAS DELIVERED ME FROM ALOT OF PAIN. MEDITATE ON IT AND GET IT INTO YOUR HEART.
FIX YOU
LOVE YOU
GET TO KNOW YOU
STOP BEING USED
IT ONLY ENTRAPS YOU
DESTROYS
AND BRING ALOT OF CONFUSION AND PAIN, ALSO BLOCKS YOUR REAL KING, AND YOUR SELF WORTH
YOUR WORTH MORE
GOD LOVES YOU QUEEN
HOMEWORK
MEDITATE
MATTHEW 7:6
DON'T GIVE WHAT'S VALUABLE TO GOD
TO DOGS OR PIGS
THEY WILL ONLY TURN AND ATTACK YOU
OR TRAMPLE ALL OVER YOU
GLAD I COULD BE OF HELP
I'LL BE HERE FOR YOU IF YOU NEED ME THROUGH THIS, MY NAME IS MINISTER JOY DIVINE
HAVE A BLESSED DAY
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(( i have copy and paste my old question for you guys to understand my question. )
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Question Posted Saturday November 29 2014, 10:43 am
here's my situation, when i started the 11th grade. i. met this boy named jean. jean is an honor student and a working man. i have school community service with him.every day . since ive gotten adjusted to seeing him every day we became friends. He very handsome and such a gentleman. i told him a month ir two later that i liked him he said " your pretty too" so i was happy all my friends said we should date so i am like hey what can go wrong. we flirted.for a few days and i felt like.he was taking to long to make the move so i made it. i wrote him a small letter expressing my.feelings ( and again this us all happening on Facebook because when were in school he always surrounded by his guy friends or female friends (alot of female friends 😭😭😭😭😓)) after i sent him the letter he said this "😍😍😍 you made my year but i wish we could be more than friends if it wasn't for my job skedual and school " ofcorse i was crying after that but then i got over it pretty fast. the following week were flirting again then he tells me he has somthing to tell me on Monday and im going like so im here waiting for the weekend to end because i though he was going pop out the question even all my friends but when i get to community service he not there but he comes the. last min . i ask him what he had to tell me but he rush out without saying a word i texted him on Facebook and he said " if you guess my favorite color then ill give you a prize " i am mad at this point so i played his little game and never won my prize. my friends say to keep trying so i made the move AGAIN . for the third time , i asked him on q date he said yes . i asked him 200 times are you seriously going through with this and he said yes as long as im paying. out date is set for two weeks from now and is either going be at a park or a botanical garden ( it pretty cold in New York) .
the moral of my.question is , Do you guys think he really like me? for a boy who rejected or as we teens say Dub (is like another word for rejection) more than once thens agree to go on a date thats pretty frustrating. ))
my date with him is in about less than a week, i was thinkin about taking him to botanical gardens but i might take him to Pelham bay park instead. and take a walk on the parks private beach my goal for this date is to 1: get to know him better and 2: atleast hold hands and kiss . i beeb making all the moves but he been there for me idk if he shy or what eves but i want him to express his feelings to. me and i want to keep in contact with him while he in college because ik he might break up wit me durring his graduation time.(( were not dating yet...)) all im trying to say is what topics should i talk about and how can a make the mood for us to get him to kiss me?
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IM JUST GOING TO GET TO THE POINT AND MAKE THIS AS CLEAR AS POSSIBLE AND PRAY THAT YOU UDERSTAND AND GET EVERYTHING THAT IM GOING TO TELL YOU.
TO ME IT SOUNDS LIKE FIRST YOU HAVE SOME PERSONAL ISSUES WITH YOUR OWN SELF IDENTITY AND SELF WORTH WHICH WILL BE BROUGHT TO REALITY THROUGHOUT THIS ANSWER.
LET ME START OFF BY SAYING ITS NORMAL TO WORK AROUND SOMEONE AND BECOME DRAWN, ATTACHED, OR FOND OF THEM , HECK IF SOMEONE HAD TO WORK AROUND SOMEONE THAT THEY CLEARLY WAS NOT ATTRACTED TO FOR A LONG PERIOD OF TIME CHANCES ARE THAT THEY WOULD STILL BECOME CLOSE OR FLIRT AT SOME POINT DUE TO NATURAL HUMAN ATTRACTION WHETHER PHYSICAL, MENTAL, SOCIAL , WHATEVER THATS NORMAL OK.
NOW YOU SAY TWO MONTHS IN YOU ADMITED TO JEAN THAT YOU LIKED HIM AND AT THAT POINT THE FLIRTING BEGAN, PAY ATTENTION TO KEYWORDS TWO MONTHS IN AND AFTER YOU SAID THEN THE FLIRTING BEGAN, HONEY LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING ANY TEENAGE BOY I DON'T CARE NERD, SHY , GAY WHATEVA HAS RAGING HORMONES AND WHEN THEY SEE SOMETHING THEY LIKE THEY GO FOR IT , AND EVEN IF SHY YOU WILL KNOW AND NOTICE OBVIOUSLY THAT THERE IS AN ATTRACTION TOWARD YOU IT'S NOT HARD AT ALL.
NOW YOU SAY YOU PERSUED HIM WITH A LETTER THAT YOU POSTED ON FACEBOOK / FOR FUTURE REFERENCE NEVER POST ANYTHING THING EVER ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS TOWARD ANYONE THAT YOU DON'T TRULY KNOW,OR YOU DON'T HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT YOU FOR A NUMBER OF REASONS, THE POINT IS IT CAN END IN HUMILIATING DISASTER, WHICH EXPLAINS THE STATEMENT STATED EARLY REGUARDING PERSONAL ISSUES AND SELF IDENITY, THAT AND THE FACT YOU STRESSED THAT HE HAD ALOT OF FEMALE FRIENDS AND CRIED AFTER HE STATED HE WISH IT COULD BE MORE BUT HIS WORK AND SCHOOL SCHEDULE DON'T PERMIT IT.
NOW I WANT YOU TO FOCUS ON HIS STATEMENT
HE STATED HE WISH IT COULD BE MORE BUT HIS WORK AND SCHOOL SCHEDULE DON'T PERMIT IT, OK ANY GUY THAT TRULY HAVE ANY CARE, CONCERN, RESPECTS OR LIKES A GIRL WILL NEVER I REPEAT NEVER MAKE THAT STATEMENT AND THEN , ANOTHER KEYWORD LEAD HER ON , ILL SAY IT AGAIN LEAD HER ON BY CONTINUING TO FLIRT WITH HER AFTER KNOWING HOW YOU FEEL AND KNOWING IT CAN'T BE MORE DUE TO HIS SO CALLED SCHEDULING. NOW IF THAT WASN'T BAD ENOUGH HE THEN MAKES YOU WAIT WITH ANTICIPATION FOR SOMETHING HE HAD TO TELL YOU, MONDAY THERE IS ANOTHER KEYWORD WAIT AND TILL MONDAY , FIRST OFF IF IT HAD ANY SUBSTANCE ANY AT ALL , WHAT HE HAD TO TELL YOU AND HE MEANT IT HE WOULD OF TOLD YOU THEN AND NOT MADE YOU WAIT , OR LET'S GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT WHY BRING THE BEGINING OF A THING UP LIKE THAT TO SOMEONE YOU KNOW HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT YOU AND MAKE THEM WAIT , ALL HE HAD TO DO WAS WAIT TILL MONDAY AND THEN JUST TOLD YOU NOT GIVE A FALSE INTRO, THAT WAS A SIGN THERE THAT IT WAS A LIE , ANYONE WITH GOOD INTENTIONS WOULD NEVER DO THAT , AND AM I RIGHT HE NOT ONLY MADE U WAIT , MADE YOU LOOK LIKE A DONKEY TO YOUR FRIENDS THEN DODGED YOU, SHOWED UP AT THE LAST MINUTE AND RAN OUT ON YOU STILL NOT ASKING THE QUESTION , THAT WAS PLANNED FROM THE BEGINING HONEY REAL TALK, THEN WHAT DOES HE DO , COME UP WITH THIS LAME GAME . THE REASON FOR THIS LAME GAME IS BECAUSE HE IS THE CONTROLLER THAT CONTROLS THIS GAME PLAYED BY TWO PLAYERS WITH YOU BEING THE LOSER EVERYTIME.YOUR A JOKE TO HIM . LET ME LET YOU ON A FACT , MEN LOVE AND WANT COMPETITION IN EVERYTHING EVEN THERE WOMAN A MAN WILL NEVER RESPECT A WOMAN THAT IS NO COMPETITION . YOUR TO EASY , NO BACK BONE , WHAT YOU SAY YOU FAILED 3 TIMES ASKING HIM ON A DATE.
OK IF I WAS THIS GUY AND YOU DIDN'T CATCH ALL THE SIGNS THAT YOUR A JOKE TO ME, I DON'T LIKE YOU, AND NO MATTER WHAT I DO OR SAY YOU STILL TRY , YOU EVEN PLAYED MY STUPID COLOR GAME , THEN ASKED ME OUT 3 TIMES , OF COURSE I'LL AGREE AND MAKE YOU PAY . FIRST OFF IF A MAN TRULY HAS ANY INTREST BELIEVE ME HE'LL PAY, HE'LL PERSUE, HE'LL ASK, THIS MAN DID NEITHER,NOW IF THAT WASN'T BAD ENOUGH YOU ASKED HIM 200 TIMES WAS HE ACTUALLY GOING TO GO THROUGH WITH THE DATE THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS WRONG WITH THAT, ONE IF YOU HAVE TO ASK A MAN , BOY ANYONE SHUCKS 3 TIMES PERIOD ARE THEY GOING THROUGH WITH IT YOU GOTTA KNOW IT'S NOT REAL, PLUS YOUR EASINESS SHINES THROUGH MORE BRIGHTER THAN EVER WHICH IS A TOTAL TURN OFF FOR ANY MALE, AND ON TOP OF THAT YOU HAVE NOW BECOME A NUSICANCE , IRRITATING , AMONGS OTHER THINGS WHICH GOES BACK TO MY PERSONAL ISSUES AND SELF IDENTITY COMMENT EARLIER.
TO SUM IT UP NO HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU, YOUR A JOKE TO THIS BOY HE NEVER HAS OR HAD ANY INTENTION OF WANTING ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU, YOU SAY YOUR GOAL IS TO GET TO KNOW HIM BETTER , FIRST GET TO KNOW YOU AND SECOND IF YOU HAVEN'T FIGURED IT OUT BY NOW LET ME SAVE YOU THE TROUBLE. YOU WILL NEVER GET TO KNOW HIM , HE WON'T ALLOW IT, HE WILL CONTINUE TO BE THE CONTROLLER THAT CONTROLS THE GAME PLAYED BY TWO PLAYERS WITH YOU LOSING EVERYTIME, YOUR A JOKE TO HIM HE HAS NO INTENTION OF LETTING YOU IN EVER, ONLY TO USE YOU, EXPOSE YOU , LAUGH AT YOU, THEN DISPOSE YOU.
HE'S ALREADY EXPRESSED HIS FEELING YOUR TO BLIND TO SEE IT , HE HAS NO INTEREST AND IS NOT SHY THAT'S YOUR BELIEF AND EXCUSE TO BANDAID YOUR FEAR OF REJECTION AND WHY KEEP IN CONTACT WITH ANYONE YOU BELIEVE WILL BREAK UP WITH YOU DURING GRADUATION TIME. YOUR PRIORITIES AND SELF WORTH IS ALL MIXED UP AND MESSED UP . YOU DON'T NEED ANY TOPICS RUN , RUN , RUN I SAY CLEAR OUT OF HIS WAY FOCUS ON YOU AND CONTINUE TO GROW TO BE THE BEAUTIFUL QUEEN I KNOW YOU DESTINE TO BE. YOUR WORTH MORE.
I PRAY I COULD BE OF HELP MY NAME IS MS JOY DIVINE I WISH YOU THE BEST
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