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Q: Well my boyfriend is acting really strange...well he always act like he doesnt want to do anything with me i always have to make the plans...he doesnt call me....he doesnt ask to meet me places accept for at times that is really not a good time...and i call him all the and he doesnt pick up unless i send a text message saying PICK UP YOUR PHONE...and i think that is very unacceptable i dont want to take up tooo muck of your time but please help HELP

Try dropping hints, for example: you,"hey, call me tomorrow we'll hang out or something". If that doesn't work, you're going to have to tell him the truth. You'll have to tell him you're tired of being the only one putting effort into the relationship. Good Luck hunny.

-Rachel.

Q: ok well what would you do if your boyfriend told you that they though someone who is 4 years older then them(hes 15, shes 19) is "bangin"? with me it kinda hurts...but i dont know what to do about it. do i just ignore it or what? please help. it would be nice to have someone to talk to about it...thanks

My suggestion is to ignore it this time. If he ever says something like that again, just hit him. Don't hit him hard or on the face. Just sort of lightly hit his arm and give him a disapproving look. If he's says "what?", just say I don't appreciate that. That's what I always do. Demand respect when it's needed. Most likely he won't do it again. I hope that was helpful.

Q: i met this guy at adventureland (he was REALLY hott!!) in des moines and i got his # but i dont want to call it cuz im afraid that its the wrong number! but then again the area code and the first 3 numbers were from the area that we were located in...what should i do? call him or not?
-confuzzled!

Go for it. I mean if it's the wrong number only you'll know that you called it. It's worth a shot. Good Luck sweetie.

Q: Okay im like 12 and i have this boyfriend that we'll call danny, i wanna kiss him so bad but i don't wanna make the move. I want him to. What should i do? I really love him!
-wanna kiss
p.s.
i rate real good!

Try hinting, maybe give him more hugs or hold his hand more often. When the time is right it'll happen. Good luck hunny!

Q: I have a crush on a guy that's I've known for 3 years. he is on year older than me and his younger sister, who is one year younger than me, is my best friend. I've had a crush on him for more than 4 years and we used to like each other, but not to the point of dating. She's told me that she THINKS he likes me too but we're not really sure. My mom and his mom are REAL good friends, but my mom is the boss and their mom is an employee, and according to my mom she doesn't want us to date or be anything more than friends because she's afraid if anythign will happen, it will ruin their relationship. My 3 questions are--How do I drop hints to let him know I still really like him? How do I know or get him to show that he likes me too? (because at times he can be a real bi0tch.) and how do i show my mom that if anything happens we'll stay friends? (i've already tried talking to her about it...) thx

Honestly, I really think you should just try to avoid going out with him. I mean if anything was to go bad in the relationship, you'd be losing a lot. Are you really willing to put a your friendship with his sister, your mom and his mom's relationship, and the friendship between you and him at risk? Relationships are tricky. You can't predict anything. Weigh the options one more time. I mean that's a lot to risk. Think about it.

Q: I really really like someone but i dont think that they would go out with me so .. what am i supposed to do ? i really wanna tell him but he likes other people..?

Go ahead and tell him that you like him. I mean what do you have to lose? The worst possible thing that could happen is he doesn't like you back. Then at least you know he's not interested, so you can find someone else you might like. And who knows, maybe he does like you. Good luck hunny.